Quote Originally Posted by Veho Nex View Post
I dont know why I thought that bringing up the fact that my moms house is a low stress environment would calm the situation down. I just did.
You were being honest without considering her point of view and how she would likely take the comment--an innocent mistake. I've made similar ones plenty of times. Sadly, open honesty isn't always the best policy.

I'm impressed by your ability to describe the situation so well in writing. I'm also impressed that you didn't lose it, that you took a "diplomatic" approach. I would have likely handled it quite differently, however. I'm an "active assertive" personality (see what I did there?! :P ), have no problem with confrontation, and would likely have engaged her the moment she posed the "set up" question, saying something like: "Hmm. An interesting question, Linda. Where exactly do you intend to take this conversation? Is your question really about me, or is it actually about how my presence here interferes with the kind of life you would prefer with my dad? Without me around?"

Of course, this approach would ignite the situation and I don't recommend this path unless you are ready to accept any potential consequences. I'm just not one to play games like that. A lot would depend on your dad and your relationship with him. Based on what you've written it's not very clear how he feels about all of this. He's the pivotal player in the little game you describe. How he feels and is willing to act is key.

Good luck man. Sounds like a challenging situation (and hauntingly familiar to me; I resolved mine by getting out on my own asap. Sadly, "family" ain't what it used to be, and there's nothing like being your own boss on the home front.