So I'm moving out...

**Megas Methuselah** · 07-16-2010, 07:20

... at summer's end when my term (dream)job ends and I head back to university. I'm still going through my options of roommates, but the rent should be around 300 bucks, more or less. My personal income, varying from scholarships, living allowance from the First Nation, and work, will be between 1000 to 1300 bucks. I will be taking the bus as my main transport (roughly 50 bucks a month), and will be grocery shopping at the cheap places, i.e. Dollar Store, et al. I will only take with me the important items and appliances, such as my tv, laptop, clothes that I actually wear, fan, laundry basket, probably my bed and dresser, desk, etc. I am already paying bills to help with the upkeep of the place I'm living at with my mom, so paying the bills won't be a new experience for me. After all, I already am a man, not a boy newly-emerging from the nest.

The garbage/random stuff that crowds in my room will be packed in boxes which I will take to my Kookum (grandma) so she can sell them at her usual yard sales. We'll probably split the profit in some way, as I won't have the time to supervise the merchandise during the sales. I can cook, wash dishes, do the laundry, wipe my ass, etc. I am extremely grateful that Canada's system allows someone in my position to advance in society. My family, though proud and illustrious, has been criminally detoriated through the passage of time (through no absolute fault of their own) from a position as equals to the Royal Family to our current impoverished state (only one in my large extended family's generation to have graduated high school so far). It sucks, but like Big Sav and the Blazin' Nativez say, "It's a tragic life." Whatever, at least I'm paving the way for a future.

What did Genghis Khan say in AoE again? "My descendants will wear gold, and eat off of gold plates, and forget to whom they owe it all." Damn that's depressing, especially since I know that quote off by heart.

On the plus side, I won't need to attempt avoid letting the girls come over to my place for a visit anymore. Lol, that's a downside of living with a single mother, but oh well. Speaking of my mom, I'm going to have to make sure she'll be ok financially-wise. The internet and cable tv will have to go. After all, we didn't suscribe for those until I got my own income from my first job back in elementary school. Bills will go down drastically with me out of the house, in terms of food, water, power, etc. She'll likely be fine. Might have to use the food bank every so often, but it wouldn't be the first time. If she has to, I guess she could move in with my Kookum (dramatic irony), but I doubt it will go that far.

These are my thoughts thus far. I feel very open and tolerant right now, so PLEASE OFFER ME ANY ADVICE YOU POSSIBLY CAN. Especially Kukri, you of all people here command my respect. Guys (and Secura), I know I can be a very bitter and hateful person sometimes, but I've been trying so hard to change that. This probably shows more in reality than it does on the interwebs.

EDIT: ****, I can't sleep.

**Fragony** · 07-16-2010, 08:18

Have fun. My advice, open an additional bank account for the bills. It's easy to spend too much.

**seireikhaan** · 07-16-2010, 15:04

Not sure how much advice I can legitimately offer, but the one thing I've found very helpful is managing negative emotion. Sure we can't be in a super positive mood all the time, but avoiding lows is very important. For me, the big thing was discarding anger and sadness over things I can't influence. Dreaming and wishing don't do much good- action does. You're going to a university? Good, university degrees(at least in the US, I imagine in Canada as well) are becoming a near necessity to get a well paying job in you're 20's and being able to rebound if unemployment does hit.

Lastly, and this might be difficult, but I'd advise letting go of your (distant?) family past (the bit about near-royal status or so). The family you have now is what's important. The now is what's important. The past is passed, after all. Work on your degree. Have some fun. Don't stress the small stuff. People seem to worry a lot. It aint good for their health, and it doesn't help you figure out how to solve a problem anyways.

**Togakure** · 07-16-2010, 21:42

Originally Posted by Yaseikhaan

Not sure how much advice I can legitimately offer, but the one thing I've found very helpful is managing negative emotion. Sure we can't be in a super positive mood all the time, but avoiding lows is very important. For me, the big thing was discarding anger and sadness over things I can't influence. Dreaming and wishing don't do much good- action does. You're going to a university? Good, university degrees(at least in the US, I imagine in Canada as well) are becoming a near necessity to get a well paying job in you're 20's and being able to rebound if unemployment does hit.

Lastly, and this might be difficult, but I'd advise letting go of your (distant?) family past (the bit about near-royal status or so). The family you have now is what's important. The now is what's important. The past is passed, after all. Work on your degree. Have some fun. Don't stress the small stuff. People seem to worry a lot. It aint good for their health, and it doesn't help you figure out how to solve a problem anyways.

Superb advice. Too long consumed by loss, regret, anger, shame, and dwelling on the past and the 'not haves,' have crippled me at this point in my life. I'm just now learning how to live as Yaseikhaan describes, and it's a lot harder now because of all the years carrying that baggage around. Do yourself a big favor and take this to heart now, while you're still young, and strong.