Met a Foreign Girl, Need Advice

[Cowhead418]

On Monday, I went to my 14-year-old brother's baseball game, and for most of the game I was playing tag at the park with my little brother and sister (I love kids). After awhile we invited this 6-year-old Vladimir to join us, and for the next half hour we played team tag and Duck Duck Goose. I had noticed what I thought was his mother watching us from the side, and she was very attractive, so I wanted to talk to her. So I told Vladimir that I was "too tired" to keep playing tag and sat down next to her.

Turns out she's only 19, and Vladimir was her nephew (Phew!). She just got to the States 2 months ago from Ukraine by herself, and the only two people she knows are her sister, who she is staying with, and Vladimir. She doesn't have a job yet, and plans to start taking an English class here, but hasn't gotten around to it yet. She had been taking English classes in Ukraine, but communication between the two of us was still a struggle.

I'm 20, and I'm currently taking Russian (2 semesters in), and am going abroad spring semester 2011 to St. Petersburg. My new friend, fortunately, is fluent in Russian, and I offered to help her with her English if she helped me with my Russian. She gave me a big smile at this suggestion and happily agreed, so we exchanged numbers. I'm planning on calling her a little later tonight to set up something for this weekend, like dinner or something - I'm going to ask her out in Russian too. However, I'm a little unsure of how to proceed with this, because I'm not well learned in Eastern European culture so I don't know exactly what she is going to expect. She is very beautiful, and it was funny seeing my dad's reaction to her, he mouthed a "Wow" to me as he walked by and saw the two of us talking.

Basically, I'm pretty stoked to see where this could go, and I'm very happy that I seized upon this golden opportunity that just fell into my lap. Any advice would be appreciated.

[edyzmedieval]

Ah yes, another one falls for the Eastern European beauty. Any other takers? We got plenty over here. I just want 10% of your earnings and I can hook you up with the best women on the planet.

Basically, asking her in Russian will be a surprise she will definitely like. So, yes, do it. Don't be pushy about it, and most Eastern European girls unless they are golddiggers love guys who are attached to their homes. Since she saw you with kids, that's a big plus. Keep at it and be calm, Eastern European babes have a sixth sense about guys.

Trust me, over here, it ain't easy.

Good luck. If you need anything else, ask.

[Husar]

Meh, just do what you think is right, if she doesn't like it, you two won't fit anyway, better to find out now than to divorce in ten years when you have five kids.
That doesn't mean fart around her all the time or so, just, be nice or whatever.
May sound rich from someone with my (lack of) experience but aren't we all armchair generals one way or another?

[Centurion1]

I went on a date or two with a croatian girl I met while visiting family. Tbqh I didn't find her too different from american chicks. She was a very nice girl. Treat an eastern european like any other girl the balkan area chick I'm talking about didn't have any special slav traditions I remember, I think we went to a movie and the beach.

I hear ukrainians are a beautiful people, especially the women. Just be courteous and normal like husar said. Women overall these days aren't too different especially not for first dates.

[Jolt]

Well, I have a Ukrainian dorm mate (He's male though), and I know his girlfriend too (Serbo-Portuguese). From what I got to know of his parents, they seemed like pretty open-minded people towards his dating. Don't know how it is for girls, but I don't think you should have any problem you wouldn't have from dating a Western girl.

[Togakure]

Keep it real, let it flow, don't worry about where it's gonna go.

[Louis VI the Fat]

Take her on an exciting date! Like, show her the wonders of electricity or microwave ovens or something.



j/k. She's foreign, but not all that foreign, I think? Besides, she migrated to America, as millions have done before. Just show her around a bit, be friendly, kind. Maybe she is just hoping to get to know more people, maybe she is looking to hook up. Possibly something in between / both.

I wouldn't maybe take her to dinner. If the language is still a bit of a problem, that might become awkward. I'd take her out for a Saturday afternoon, just to a park or something, or something fun in your area. Surprise her with a great, elaborate, but selfmade so sweet lunch and wine. Then lay down in the grass and tickle her feet with a flower you just picked etc etc...

[Jolt]

I wouldn't maybe take her to dinner. If the language is still a bit of a problem, that might become awkward. I'd take her out for a Saturday afternoon, just to a park or something, or something fun in your area. Surprise her with a great, elaborate, but selfmade so sweet lunch and wine. Then lay down in the grass and tickle her feet with a flower you just picked etc etc...

A little bit cliche. But then again, it's a Western cliche.

[KukriKhan]

Clichés are clichés for a reason. Why else would Frenchmen invent them? Listen to the Man.

[Megas Methuselah]

Keep it real, mane. I usually take em out for coffee on the first, but that language barrier sounds a bit... of something like a barrier.

Yeah, Louis is right. Anything that would keep conversation to a minimum. Besides, practicing language and sentences with one another over a picnic sounds pretty sweet and fun.

Do it.

[Vuk]

show her the wonders of electricity or microwave ovens or something.

What, cancer? :P
You have one funny sense of humor there Louis!

[naut]

Lucky. Lucky. Lucky.

Go somewhere non-threatening, so not dinner, not your favourite cafe, somewhere neutral like the park, the town centre, go for a walk. Don't monopolise the conversation. Etc. Enjoy it, whatever ends up happening.

[Ethelred Unread]

The best way to learn a foriegn language is to hook up with a member of the opposite sex and practice, practice, practice! You don't say how good your russian is but, I definitely go with that and try and speak it as much as possible.

As an ex-English teacher a great way to get a conversation going with non-english speakers is to talk about animals, and the animal noises they make, fr'instance dogs bark, cats meow etc. As they are onomatapeic you'd think they'd be the same worldwide, but every langauge is different. Guaranteed laughing, and to get a girl to like you laughter is an easy way!

Another good one is directly translating idioms the obvious one is "it's raining cats and dogs" (which only english learners use I'm sure) but you've probably got some local idioms you use which if you directly translate them are usually hilarious.

Good luck!

[Sarmatian]

Girls from eastern Europe are tricky. They don't like flowers, chocolate, music, films and so on. You need to impress her with brute strength, like break a beer bottle on your head. If you have tattoos and scars, those help too. Oh, and chest hair. If you don't have any, you're out. Run to the nearest barber shop, take some hair and super-glue it on your chest.

Just do what you would do with any other girl, mate. The only thing you shouldn't do is be disrespectful towards her nation and culture but that goes for everybody.

[Ibrahim]

On Monday, I went to my 14-year-old brother's baseball game, and for most of the game I was playing tag at the park with my little brother and sister (I love kids). After awhile we invited this 6-year-old Vladimir to join us, and for the next half hour we played team tag and Duck Duck Goose. I had noticed what I thought was his mother watching us from the side, and she was very attractive, so I wanted to talk to her. So I told Vladimir that I was "too tired" to keep playing tag and sat down next to her.

Turns out she's only 19, and Vladimir was her nephew (Phew!). She just got to the States 2 months ago from Ukraine by herself, and the only two people she knows are her sister, who she is staying with, and Vladimir. She doesn't have a job yet, and plans to start taking an English class here, but hasn't gotten around to it yet. She had been taking English classes in Ukraine, but communication between the two of us was still a struggle.

I'm 20, and I'm currently taking Russian (2 semesters in), and am going abroad spring semester 2011 to St. Petersburg. My new friend, fortunately, is fluent in Russian, and I offered to help her with her English if she helped me with my Russian. She gave me a big smile at this suggestion and happily agreed, so we exchanged numbers. I'm planning on calling her a little later tonight to set up something for this weekend, like dinner or something - I'm going to ask her out in Russian too. However, I'm a little unsure of how to proceed with this, because I'm not well learned in Eastern European culture so I don't know exactly what she is going to expect. She is very beautiful, and it was funny seeing my dad's reaction to her, he mouthed a "Wow" to me as he walked by and saw the two of us talking.

Basically, I'm pretty stoked to see where this could go, and I'm very happy that I seized upon this golden opportunity that just fell into my lap. Any advice would be appreciated.

my only advice/comment is good luck; hopefully, ye'll not be given head by the attempt.

Clichés are clichés for a reason. Why else would Frenchmen invent them? Listen to the Man.

because the French, contrary to propaganda, are poor lovers-excluding Provence-and only look good because everyone else is worse.

of course, anyone and their retarded uncle is a better lover than the guy posting this, so I'm a poor judge.