Need Sum Input

**naut** · 09-16-2010, 11:54

Originally Posted by Shibumi

The tricker question then, from reading your post, you dont seem very happy with life. Are you sure she doesnt just remind you of a time when you were happier, rather than her being the reason you were happy? What in your current way of life can you change to something more positive?

If you are not happy in and of yourself, no outside influence will ever help you, from my experience. I would recomend you to sharpen up, do something about whatever is draging you down. Then, if the will to contact her still exists, dont hesitate.

What this man said. Either it's the above or regret. Or both.

Possibly anticipation too? Regret and anticipation feel pretty similar IMHO.

**A Nerd** · 09-16-2010, 16:48

Write and profess your love. Don't be afraid to express your emotions. There is more than sex when dealing with women! If you just want sex, find someone you feel less for and have your fun!

**ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88** · 09-16-2010, 17:29

Send her a Teddy bear, works every time!

I'm something of a coward.

Didn't know the Great Megaman was! Come on Hussar, show her how fmabloruyent you are! Red Shako!!!!!

**Shibumi** · 09-16-2010, 17:39

Originally Posted by A Nerd

Write and profess your love. Don't be afraid to express your emotions. There is more than sex when dealing with women! If you just want sex, find someone you feel less for and have your fun!

Rubbish.

He hasnt seen her for years, he will come off as a complete nutcase if he would randomly express his love.

**A Nerd** · 09-16-2010, 17:54

Love should be timeless. If he no longer loves her based on appearence, then he never felt for her at all. Perhaps he better keep silent...:)

**Skullheadhq** · 09-16-2010, 18:28

Oh look, it's another girl thread.
Someone should consider making a big love advice sticky thread.

**naut** · 09-16-2010, 19:21

Originally Posted by Skullheadhq

Oh look, it's another girl thread.
Someone should consider making a big love advice sticky thread.

We used to have one. It's like 14 pages or something...

**Peasant Phill** · 09-16-2010, 21:25

You know that you get old when you can't consider doing something love related via electronic means.
But that isn't relevant here.

If she's on your mind quite a lot (for whatever reason), then by all means contact her. Say you saw her, apologize for not talking to her then and then ask her how she's been.
You may have gained a friend, a romantic interest, ... In the worst case she'll think you are weird but. Anyway it goes you'll at least have gotten this unanswered whatever out of your system.

Don't think it over, just do it. You'll stay unhappy if you wait for thing to get better. Take it from the guy whose first romantic experience started whe she said "are we going to kiss or what".

**Megas Methuselah** · 09-16-2010, 23:07

Originally Posted by Shibumi

The tricker question then, from reading your post, you dont seem very happy with life. Are you sure she doesnt just remind you of a time when you were happier, rather than her being the reason you were happy?

This is a tough question to answer. It stayed in my mind as I was going over the thread, until I found this post:

Originally Posted by Psychonaut

[In reply to Shibumi's post]

What this man said. Either it's the above or regret. Or both.

I have a lot of regrets from the past, especially with this girl. And the way we looked at each other on that summer day, she expected me to talk to her. She wanted me to. But I walked away, man! And now I can't get her off my mind...

I've been putting a lot of thought into this, and this is what I've got so far: when I met her, I was a boy becoming a man. But as a teenager, I had no father figures to look to; becoming a man, and not just a man, but an indian man in an indian family with all of our indian problems, was... very difficult, frustrating, and heart-breaking. I'm sure many of you realized that, seeing as how I used the Org for the past years to dump out all the emotions balled up in my bitter heart. But I am now a man. This doesn't mean I know everything in life (on the contrary, I am always learning), but it does mean that I've emotionally matured over the past several years. One of the things I thought I left behind was cowardice. Acting as I did with her this past summer was... unlike me. And I think that sending her a short e-mail along the lines of "hey -her name-, it's -my name-. If you can, call me sometime at -phone number-. Thanks." (btw, does that sound ok?) At least this way, I think I might be able to rest in peace with the knowledge that I tried.

But as it is now, I always felt that we had unfinished business. We were probably both too young to deal with what we felt. And I'm thinking we could maybe pick up where we left off. At the very least, I might be able to hear her sweet voice again. And this hopefully won't be another action added to my already-heavy burden of regrets.

Give me some feedback.

**Csargo** · 09-17-2010, 00:14

Do it.

**Beskar** · 09-17-2010, 00:55

I think adding her to facebook would be the best way, you will also see if she is single or not.

**Csargo** · 09-17-2010, 01:37

Yeah, but facebook is the devil though.

**Strike For The South** · 09-17-2010, 02:27

Facebook, it comes in handy

**Ice** · 09-17-2010, 04:20

I'm going to go against the grain here, and say forget about her. I mean, what exactly are you going to accomplish by sending her an email? It's a bit hard to build a relationship when you two aren't geographically close, and there had been no real special bond from the past. I know this sucks and isn't what you wanted to hear, but I've had experience with a very closely related situation. It sucked. A LOT. Don't let it drive you insane. Go chase. That's the single greatest piece of advice I can offer.

By the way, I think I've been using Excel too much. The title reminded me of =sum(x,x) :P.

**naut** · 09-17-2010, 10:52

Originally Posted by Megas Methuselah

And I think that sending her a short e-mail along the lines of "hey -her name-, it's -my name-. If you can, call me sometime at -phone number-. Thanks." (btw, does that sound ok?) At least this way, I think I might be able to rest in peace with the knowledge that I tried.

Something like that, "Hi, was that you at -location- the otherday? I wasn't sure, I'm sorry if I blanked you, but I wasn't entirely sure it was you. Anyway, how you been, etc..."

Anyway, I'll leave you with the opening to Sweet Loaf by the Butthole Surfers:

"Daddy?"
"Yes, son?"
"What does regret mean?"
"Well, son, the funny thing about regret is that it's better to regret something you have done than to regret something you haven't done."