I give up.

[Prussian to the Iron]

I cannot understand this phenomenon where people end up just being friends with girls. I honestly can't see how you could ever get into that sort of situation.

It's not like you would share typical interests like football or gaming or whatever. It's like both genders act the same these days. At Uni they all seem to hang out in mixed groups, and the guys all wear fancy clothes with designer hair cuts and all the crap. What do they even talk about? X-factor (lol)?

Bah! I sound like an old man and I'm 21!

Meh, I'm probably just too far removed from 'popular culture' these days.

Because some total A-hole 50 years ago decided he could just be friends with girls, and then girls started to get the idea that it was ok to not only just be friends with a guy that would be a good match for them, but also to lead said guy on as if she was his girlfriend, thus making him into the un-escapable friend stage.

trust me Rhyfelwyr, I'm totally with you. i hate guys that act like girls, and dress like that. and i hate that girls then like these guys over the actual men that they know.

Hell, I'm on the Football Team (runningback), I'm like really smart, ROTC, and overall pretty buff (not to sound too arrogant or full of myself). but nowadays no girls want that. they want all the gay dudes.

[gaelic cowboy]

Your probably trying too hard just relax and you know talk to people for you the craic trust me it works.

[naut]

Your probably trying too hard just relax and you know talk to people for you the craic trust me it works.

Its pretty obvious you aren't ready.

Cultural differences could be popping up here so my view may be tainted, but yeah.

Give up, come back in a couple years when you might be ready. Why do you need a girlfriend now anyway?

Give a good reason.

I don't mean to pry or be rude, but you seem like you have some personal insecurities, etc. At the dance when she went to talk to her friends why did you do what you did? Isn't she allowed to have her own friends? Maybe you should have talked to other people there too, rather than worry about a girl you just met. If something is going to happen it is going to happen, calm down. I get the sense that you are "dependent" on others for approval. I may be completely off here, an I'm not trying to be rude, but you should take a step back, assess yourself, and say am I completely happy personally? If you can' love yourself, and if you don't have your own life and sense of identity you can never actually love someone else.

Uh, I hope that makes sense, 6 or so hours sleep over the last 3 days is messing with my thought processes.

[jabarto]

I'm going to go against the consensus here and agree with the OP. I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and will be alone until the day I die. But it's so very worth it to not have to deal with people and their lies.

[a completely inoffensive name]

[Prussian to the Iron]

I don't mean to pry or be rude, but you seem like you have some personal insecurities, etc. At the dance when she went to talk to her friends why did you do what you did? Isn't she allowed to have her own friends? Maybe you should have talked to other people there too, rather than worry about a girl you just met. If something is going to happen it is going to happen, calm down. I get the sense that you are "dependent" on others for approval. I may be completely off here, an I'm not trying to be rude, but you should take a step back, assess yourself, and say am I completely happy personally? If you can' love yourself, and if you don't have your own life and sense of identity you can never actually love someone else.

Uh, I hope that makes sense, 6 or so hours sleep over the last 3 days is messing with my thought processes.

it wasn't that she was hanging out with friends, it was that she totally disregarded me for like an entire hour and left me waiting like an idiot.

I'm going to go against the consensus here and agree with the OP. I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and will be alone until the day I die. But it's so very worth it to not have to deal with people and their lies.

virgin power!

[naut]

it wasn't that she was hanging out with friends, it was that she totally disregarded me for like an entire hour and left me waiting like an idiot.

So she's meant to follow your every command? Mountain, meet molehill.

[Prussian to the Iron]

So she's meant to follow your every command? Mountain, meet molehill.

what? I paid for her ticket, I at least deserve something past "hey I'm gonna go talk to *insert friend name here*" all night long. if she didn't intend on spending any time with me she shouldn't have said yes in the first place.

[Rhyfelwyr]

Hell, I'm on the Football Team (runningback), I'm like really smart, ROTC, and overall pretty buff (not to sound too arrogant or full of myself). but nowadays no girls want that. they want all the gay dudes.

I think that is probably only a problem for girls in your age group (you're 15 or so, IIRC?), they probably like Justine Bieber lookalikes. I never got any attention until the last couple of years, since then I've been approached a few times, I can't complain since I barely leave the house and I've only got one Uni class for two hours per term (ha!). I ruin everything with my lack of social skills though, I'm still annoyed about the last time. Gah!

And I do not act all 'macho' and I am not chauvinistic. I just see myself as normal and the problem is with all these emo's and such likes today which have become the new 'norm'. Where I live I am a completely average, this phenomenon I have noticed is more at Uni.

[Motep]

give 'em time. They'll come around

[gaelic cowboy]

Hold on Prusiian Iron cant be that young is ROTC not like a Cadetship in the army






Anyway who cares if there all into "Gay Dudes" they soon cop there not into them.

[Hax]

trust me Rhyfelwyr, I'm totally with you. i hate guys that act like girls, and dress like that. and i hate that girls then like these guys over the actual men boys that they know.

So I'll edit and give full details later, but basically I'm freaking done with women girls. Too much effort and hurt and nothing in return. screw sex, I haven't even had a girlfriend for more than 1 date before! and I've only been out on 2 dates, 1 of which thought it wasnt one!

Look, I made it somewhat more fitting ^___^

[Prussian to the Iron]

Hold on Prusiian Iron cant be that young is ROTC not like a Cadetship in the army

I'm 15, 16 in april

[Hosakawa Tito]

A love song. Pick yer self up, dust yer self off, never give up.

[Motep]

I approve of the above post

[Megas Methuselah]

Don't worry, brah. Even the ugliest bastards can get laid once they get into university. I don't know how they do it, but they get by somehow.

[gaelic cowboy]

I'm 15, 16 in april

What is ROTC so then I thought it stood for Reserve Officer's Training Corps your cant be in that at 15.

The lads are right just play it cool college is where the action happens anyway

[Prussian to the Iron]

What is ROTC so then I thought it stood for Reserve Officer's Training Corps your cant be in that at 15.

The lads are right just play it cool college is where the action happens anyway

whatever jrotc does it matter?

[gaelic cowboy]

whoa lad take it easy I wasnt putting you down just wondering thats all