I give up.

**naut** · 10-04-2010, 03:39

Originally Posted by gaelic cowboy

Your probably trying too hard just relax and you know talk to people for you the craic trust me it works.

Originally Posted by pevergreen

Its pretty obvious you aren't ready.

Cultural differences could be popping up here so my view may be tainted, but yeah.

Give up, come back in a couple years when you might be ready. Why do you need a girlfriend now anyway?

Give a good reason.

I don't mean to pry or be rude, but you seem like you have some personal insecurities, etc. At the dance when she went to talk to her friends why did you do what you did? Isn't she allowed to have her own friends? Maybe you should have talked to other people there too, rather than worry about a girl you just met. If something is going to happen it is going to happen, calm down. I get the sense that you are "dependent" on others for approval. I may be completely off here, an I'm not trying to be rude, but you should take a step back, assess yourself, and say am I completely happy personally? If you can' love yourself, and if you don't have your own life and sense of identity you can never actually love someone else.

Uh, I hope that makes sense, 6 or so hours sleep over the last 3 days is messing with my thought processes.

**jabarto** · 10-04-2010, 06:14

I'm going to go against the consensus here and agree with the OP. I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and will be alone until the day I die. But it's so very worth it to not have to deal with people and their lies.

**a completely inoffensive name** · 10-04-2010, 07:06

**Prussian to the Iron** · 10-04-2010, 23:14

Originally Posted by Psychonaut

I don't mean to pry or be rude, but you seem like you have some personal insecurities, etc. At the dance when she went to talk to her friends why did you do what you did? Isn't she allowed to have her own friends? Maybe you should have talked to other people there too, rather than worry about a girl you just met. If something is going to happen it is going to happen, calm down. I get the sense that you are "dependent" on others for approval. I may be completely off here, an I'm not trying to be rude, but you should take a step back, assess yourself, and say am I completely happy personally? If you can' love yourself, and if you don't have your own life and sense of identity you can never actually love someone else.

Uh, I hope that makes sense, 6 or so hours sleep over the last 3 days is messing with my thought processes.

it wasn't that she was hanging out with friends, it was that she totally disregarded me for like an entire hour and left me waiting like an idiot.

Originally Posted by jabarto

I'm going to go against the consensus here and agree with the OP. I'm 20, never had a girlfriend, never been kissed, and will be alone until the day I die. But it's so very worth it to not have to deal with people and their lies.

virgin power!

**naut** · 10-05-2010, 17:08

Originally Posted by Prussian Iron

it wasn't that she was hanging out with friends, it was that she totally disregarded me for like an entire hour and left me waiting like an idiot.

So she's meant to follow your every command? Mountain, meet molehill.

**Prussian to the Iron** · 10-05-2010, 22:16

Originally Posted by Psychonaut

So she's meant to follow your every command? Mountain, meet molehill.

what? I paid for her ticket, I at least deserve something past "hey I'm gonna go talk to *insert friend name here*" all night long. if she didn't intend on spending any time with me she shouldn't have said yes in the first place.

**Megas Methuselah** · 10-05-2010, 23:13

You bought her ticket?

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... Where the hell do you live? The conservative bible belt?

**Hooahguy** · 10-05-2010, 23:58

You bought her ticket?

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... Where the hell do you live? The conservative bible belt?

Buying her ticket is a bit much, considering you arent even dating. But at least that was chivalrous. Maybe they dont have chivalry in Canada?

**pevergreen** · 10-06-2010, 03:47

Originally Posted by Prussian Iron

what? I paid for her ticket, I at least deserve something past "hey I'm gonna go talk to *insert friend name here*" all night long. if she didn't intend on spending any time with me she shouldn't have said yes in the first place.

Why?

She isn't yours for the night, you bought her ticket, not the ticket to owning her for the night.

You expected something different than she did, you aren't ready, and neither are other girls your age.