Quote Originally Posted by Prussian Iron View Post
dont sound much like it here, but i'm really very gentlemanly most of the time, really classy actually. maybe thats my problem? I need to treat girls like the ground i walk on like most other people do?
Quote Originally Posted by Hooahguy
Yes.
Oh, not more "nice guy"s.

"You don't have to be an ego-inflated, arrogant jerk. You just have to LIKE yourself. You have to know what you want out of life, and go after it."

You aren't ready. You don't do something nice or gentlemanly because you'll get something in return. That is no longer being nice or gentlemanly, that is emotional manipulation with an underlying motive. You do it because it is the nice thing to do.

I may be coming off as a hard-nosed , but that's what you really need. You don't need your ego stroked and a reassuring arm round the shoulder. You need some cold-hard perspective. So do as the Texan said earlier, do the more important things in your life first. Set some goals, set some things you want to achieve. And go after them. As a result you'll gain confidence, self-esteem and you'll find yourself swimming in ladies who are interested in you because you are interesting and driven.