Not a parent but why on earth would you let such a position slip through your fingers, especially now when nothing is certain. You can do a lot of your work at home nowadays anyway.
Originally Posted by Fragony:
Not a parent but why on earth would you let such a position slip through your fingers, especially now when nothing is certain. You can do a lot of your work at home nowadays anyway.
Because I'm one of those people who don't care about money and social standard. I can have a, financially, comfortable life with a lower paying, but more relax job. Sure, it'll mean no luxury and no big house, but I don't give a damn about that. I couldn't care less about what my neighbours think of me. I'm not the type of guy who would put his BMW outside his garage so people can see how well I'm doing.
I'm not, of course, completely insensitive for money, but money will never be a reason or motivation for me to do something I don't want to do. The work itself that I'm doing, however, would be, under the condition that I can do it one day while being my own boss.
Originally Posted by Andres:
Because I'm one of those people who don't care about money and social standard. I can have a, financially, comfortable life with a lower paying, but more relax job. Sure, it'll mean no luxury and no big house, but I don't give a damn about that. I couldn't care less about what my neighbours think of me. I'm not the type of guy who would put his BMW outside his garage so people can see how well I'm doing.
I'm not, of course, completely insensitive for money, but money will never be a reason or motivation for me to do something I don't want to do.
Screw the 'I don't care about what others think', that's projection imho. Do you want to spend 8 hours a day being bored?
not the exactly same things, but my father was an arab-descendant, trader who always pursue his business and never speak with his children more than he needed to confirm that he was still our father, and sometimes gave us thrashing with his belts. He never said he loved us, and forced us to always do what he want us to do, not to mention slap everyone who forgot to pray properly 5 times a day.
I didn't hate my father, but now, after I can get myself some money, I live away from them, become an atheist, and generally only visit my parents for some formality.
The Stranger 15:23 11-17-2010
i'd say wait maybe a year until your child is a bit older and it can be left easier in the care of others (like grandmom, daycare etc) and then try to pursue the dream of becoming a notary. i have friends whose father is also a notary (dunno from what age but i definitly a big part of their youth) and they turned out fine.
my dad has his own company for a few years now and he has always been quite high in the other bussiness he worked for which also meant alot of work but whenever he had the time he would spend it with us, and you guys all know i turned out fine XD
its all about balance imo and i dont see why your dream of being a notary has to be seperated from your dream of being a good father and having a warm home, i think its all one big dream.
Sasaki Kojiro 16:14 11-17-2010
Don't think of more money now as just "I can buy a bmw". More like "I can retire X years earlier".
It's not nice to be unhappy at work, and I don't think your kid will like it either...usually you just keep away if they had a bad day at work. But there is undeniably less free time with the notary job.
Oh well, I wonder how much of our perception of this is from hollywood movies pitting extreme examples vs each other. "The Family Man" comes to mind.
Originally Posted by Sasaki Kojiro:
Don't think of more money now as just "I can buy a bmw". More like "I can retire X years earlier".
This. This. This.
My father is a driven man, he worked hard and I often didn't see him between the ages of 0 and ten for long periods of time. However, he's retired now, and has been for about 5 years, he's in his mid-50s and doesn't need to work another day in his life unless he wants to or one of his old work colleagues contracts him to do some minor work.
How close am I with him? Incredibly close. I love that man. However, I couldn't have said that 5+ years ago because he wasn't around enough. However, because he got to retire early he was able to bond with myself and my siblings.
My mother is a different case, she also works hard, she still works, but there's a bond between mother and child that is innate and doesn't always form between father and child, unless fostered and developed.
If being a notary is something you want, I say go for it. You definitely don't want to be stuck in job you don't like, and while it might be hard work for a few years if you enjoy it it will be a lot smoother (and you will be more pleasant to be around). And while you may not personally care about the money, you have a responsibility to care for your new child as best you can.
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