Quote Originally Posted by Motep View Post
I would listen to him. Friendships are nice and all, but once she sees you as a friend it will almsot never work out to be anything more that that. And, seeing as how love through closeness is more true for males than females, you will only depress yourself.
It's not that she see's you as a "friend", it's that she sees this: a guy with low self-esteem and no confidence who doesn't back himself enough to take a chance and isn't man enough to go out and "take what he wants". Guys who take that approach are desperate, and to quote a good friend of mine: "Desperation is the least attractive quality a man can have".

Confidence and backing yourself is what works. That and having realistic expectations, relationships are transactive. Don't expect to get a premium product if your offering is substandard.