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[Sasaki Kojiro]

There are no morals to uphold in going for women... On the other hand, any bond of marriage is between two individuals only, and it doesn't make sense for outsiders to be held to that code.

Well, it seems obvious that there are some morals involved. Isn't it clearly wrong to break up a relationship just to sleep with someone?

And if it's wrong for one person to break a promise, than persuading someone to break the promise is clearly suspect morally...although it's not clear cut as far as relationship promises go.

Especially when the code is applied for relationships between two non married people. The point of dating is to be with someone you think you will be happy with. It is inherently selfish in nature. If you can provide a more fulfilling relationship, then why is it wrong for a woman in any stage of a relationship to switch to the more fulfilling man? Because she made an oath to another person?

You can choose whatever path you want to uphold, but you can't really get mad at a competitor ever choosing to go with the opposite path as you and succeeding. All in all you can argue that as long as you are a great partner, there would be no reason for your significant other to break up with you in the first place. After all, making the decision to choose someone else means putting in an investment of time before you really know if this person is truly better.

I think what you say about the point of dating is good as far as it goes, but on what basis does the outsider think it will work out between them? I think great caution and care would be required, and a genuine desire for a serious relationship, and no wishful thinking. If a couple is happy, then they should be left to it. The fact that one person may be persuaded (perhaps briefly) doesn't seem like a strong argument. People can be persuaded to do stupid things. I don't think anyone believes it's always wrong (Cary Grant and Catherine Hepburn can do it fine, so...) but it can be done badly, like many things that are immoral.

Basically I think you're forgetting about stupid people when you say there aren't any morals to uphold :p

When divorce occurs for 50% of all marriages it appears that is sacred oath isn't really regarded as one by the public at large.

Off topic, but I doubt this statistic is useful here. The overall relationship percentage may not be very relevant to the relationship in question. What's the rate for people with college degrees who get married after 26? Etc.

edit: oh, getting suckered into a discussion that started with a vague question...oh well.

Everything.

I feel like you missed the point then..