So, you seem to have learned what I told you was true.

Your major contention and sticking point seems to be in your next to last point.
I hope you don’t think that sharing ones feelings is the same as being situationally inappropriate.

We typically share feeling with those we trust and understand us. To do so in a setting where others may ridicule and abuse that trust is not normal behavior.

One is normal human caring and the other could be caused by a disorder or behaving as a spoiled child.

Clear?