Why do nice girls date guys who are jerks?

[Prussian to the Iron]

Because if you're always available and willing to drop anything to be with a girl, and she knows it, you get put at the bottom of the list. If she thinks that she only has one chance to get you, because you act like a jerk who doesn't need them, then they will want to go out with you right then.

For the same reason as I don't smother one of my little brothers with love: he's the only one who always hugs me goodnight and tells me he loves me and everything (7 year old), but because he's so readily available and will do it anytime, it doesn't mean that much to me. Whereas the 5 year old brother almost never does any of the above, so its alot better.



Basically you have to not let them know that you give a damn about them until after you start dating, and then you can be a bit nicer.

I've found that at least in high school, almost the only time being just a nice guy will land you a girl is if you're the rebound and you listen to all their crap and make them feel good. But rebounds are always short and usually pretty meaningless, in-between periods for her and you'll end up getting hurt (and no, I won't make a thread about how I was Green's rebound til today)




EDIT:

I was told that I was previously in the OP? I'd like to know what it said exactly? I don't care if it's a personal attack or not Sec, I'm really curious though

[Cute Wolf]

well, always being available and nice maybe works for that....
so, its true for most girls then? I wonder if the reverse is also true

[Prussian to the Iron]

the reverse being that most jerk girls go for nice guys? or that always available and nice girls are in the same light as their guy counterparts?

[Cute Wolf]

the reverse being that most jerk girls go for nice guys? or that always available and nice girls are in the same light as their guy counterparts?

then this mean you should go find a jerk girl in your school

[Montmorency]

So:

1.

2. CuteWolf webstalks PI.

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[Cute Wolf]

So:

2. CuteWolf webstalks PI.

you could webstalks him too just add him on FB http://www.facebook.com/profile.php?id=100001603097354 (hell, he said this on his sig!)

[Subotan]

Because if you're always available and willing to drop anything to be with a girl, and she knows it, you get put at the bottom of the list. If she thinks that she only has one chance to get you, because you act like a jerk who doesn't need them, then they will want to go out with you right then.

Or, maybe, they just don't want to pursue a sexual relationship with you.

GEE WHAT A DIFFICULT CONCEPT TO UNDERSTAND.

For the same reason as I don't smother one of my little brothers with love: he's the only one who always hugs me goodnight and tells me he loves me and everything (7 year old), but because he's so readily available and will do it anytime, it doesn't mean that much to me. Whereas the 5 year old brother almost never does any of the above, so its alot better.

For the same reason as totally irrelevant analogy

Basically you have to not let them know that you give a damn about them until after you start dating, and then you can be a bit nicer.

When exactly did PI make the transition from receiving to giving advice in the archetypal frontroom thread? Because I was think he was far, far too quick to do so.

I've found that at least in high school, almost the only time being just a nice guy will land you a girl is if you're the rebound and you listen to all their crap and make them feel good. But rebounds are always short and usually pretty meaningless, in-between periods for her and you'll end up getting hurt

Protip: No life experience you gain from high school other than learning how to have non-sexual friendships with girls will be of any use to you, ever.

(and no, I won't make a thread about how I was Green's rebound til today)

WHEYYYYYYYY

I was told that I was previously in the OP? I'd like to know what it said exactly? I don't care if it's a personal attack or not Sec, I'm really curious though

This is Classical Frontroom. Unfortunately, I ran out of popcorn by the twelfth post.

the reverse being that most jerk girls go for nice guys? or that always available and nice girls are in the same light as their guy counterparts?

No, it's because of a little phenomenon called CONFIRMATION BIAS

[a completely inoffensive name]

Guys over complicate women so much, that frustrates me more than the females themselves. Know what you want. Be upfront with the girl and let her know what you want. If she can't provide it, then move on. If no one can provide it, lower your standards. Not that hard people. Also, it isn't that hard to separate the chaff from the wheat when it comes to the intelligence of females you comes across. The self esteem lacking bimbos reveal themselves pretty fast just as the intelligent strong women do.

[Peasant Phill]

Guys over complicate women so much, that frustrates me more than the females themselves. Know what you want. Be upfront with the girl and let her know what you want. If she can't provide it, then move on. If no one can provide it, lower your standards. Not that hard people. Also, it isn't that hard to separate the chaff from the wheat when it comes to the intelligence of females you comes across. The self esteem lacking bimbos reveal themselves pretty fast just as the intelligent strong women do.

You do know that you're on a war game forum, home to the socially incompetent and those who already married years ago? Good advice though

and no, I won't make a thread about how I was Green's rebound til today

Karma, you have to love it.

[Subotan]

Guys over complicate women so much, that frustrates me more than the females themselves. Know what you want. Be upfront with the girl and let her know what you want. If she can't provide it, then move on. If no one can provide it, lower your standards. Not that hard people. Also, it isn't that hard to separate the chaff from the wheat when it comes to the intelligence of females you comes across. The self esteem lacking bimbos reveal themselves pretty fast just as the intelligent strong women do.

Dude what are you doing, this isn't the place for sincere/serious advice