Why do nice girls date guys who are jerks?

[a completely inoffensive name]

Ok so heres the situation: so where I work there are two very pretty girls. Lets call them Red and Greene. Now, I had Green "in my sights." Then comes this other guy, who makes out with Red, and then the next day makes out with Green and now they are dating. Clearly such a person is a jerk, so why do such nice girls go out with such complete s?

Because he has a bigger package than you.

[Hooahguy]

Because he has a bigger package than you.

Touche sir, touche.

[Rhyfelwyr]

How do you know they are nice girls?

[naut]

I was going to reply in disgust. But, why bother when someone has explained it better than me.

Compliments on the site.

While I don't agree with *all* of the material you've got, your section on 'Nice Guys' had a lot of very good stuff. At the risk of speculating on the inner workings of the female mind, I'd like to offer my theory on the whole nice-guy issue:

The vast majority of women don't want nice guys.

That's right. Sorry, guys who were hoping to get lucky by rescuing puppies and listening to Yanni, you're in trouble.

Women don't want nice guys. In my experience, with friends, partners, and other interactions, they like *KIND* guys. The difference is a subtle one, but it's important.

'Niceness' is a set of completely superficial behaviors that boils down to 'being inoffensive.' Someone can be a 'nice ' just as easily as a caustic . Niceness also comes along for the ride with kindness in many cases, but is motivated by genuine care for others regardless of how it 'pays off.'

My experience has been that most of the deeply embittered 'nice guys' are just as self-centered as the jerks they gripe about; they just don't have the balls to weather rejection from healthy women while playing the numbers game, hitting on women until one responds favorably.

If your goal is to 'get' a girl, and you're trying to accomplish it by being a nice guy, you are being very inefficient. If your goal is to form long-lasting relationships with people you care about, and possibly have a romantic relationship with them, well, kindness is a quality to cultivate.

It's about motivation, really.

[Arjos]

^^

[Peasant Phill]

Jerks have generally more confidence. It's as simple as that without going into antropology.

[Moros]

What Peasant Phill and Psycho say, really.

The nice guy is all about self pitty and no confidence. In a way they are as egocentric as the jerk, but are to lazy to try to get some and thus go out hating the world for the fact they don't get any.
Before you can love someone else, you've got to love yourself (and I don't mean your right or left hand). 'The jerk' is very good at that. But of course they are to big of a jerk for long time relationships and the likes.