Centurion Style Girl Problems

[ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88]

Show her how fun having Cashews and Milk can be and if and when you come across Mr.Peanut, don't be shy!

[Strike For The South]

"Never make someone your priority, when they only make you an option."

Anytime I've tried a FWB situation it always is more frustration than its worth. Breaking up sucks bro but the only advice I can give is don't be hateful, petty or desperate. Let her live her life and you live yours. When you get that 2 am call or text message, ignore it or simple state that fact. A FWB situation will hamstring you from meeting someone new.

[TheLastDays]

One of the inevitabilities that I've found with a friends-with-benefits situation is that, at some point, one of you will develop feelings for the other and it just leads to awkwardness; the whole point of it is the casual, no-strings aspect. In this situation, the feelings are already established and even if she can turn them off and just see you as a sex object, you cannot do that yourself... she means more to you than that, I'm sure.

This. Apart from the fact that I'm against premarital sex anyway but in this case I'd advise against it, even if leaving all morality issues aside, simply because you will only get hurt even more. Sorry to hear about your "loss". You'll get better mate

[Cute Wolf]

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you may want to introspect yourself, are when you're in relationship with her, you intruding in her life too much?

too much jealously maybe?

or too much questioning of her?

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sounds like if she want "spend some time alone", but still want to stay with you... well, looks like you have problem with trust and or jealosly

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while it may seem trivial, a simple matter of saying "where are you last night / yesterday / what are you doing with *insert guy name* ; when you said to her quite regularly, it can be very very irritating

[Centurion1]

You know cute wolf you are more right than I feel comfortable with you being. I was definetly far too jealous and untrustworthy towards her and it bit me in the ass. I think the real reason for the breakup is that she needed time to herself.

As for the FWB...... we are going through with it. Though what changes it a bit in my eyes is that we made a pact we would not hook up with anyone else for the duration.

I really think its a distance thing, she really treasures her privacy while I have very few barriers between my public and private life in comparison.

[ELITEofWARMANGINGERYBREADMEN88]

[Major Robert Dump]

You see this is the problem with women. You let her tell you what she wants, you let her tell you she needs more space, you let her have some input, and pretty soon she goes unhinged and thinks she can leave the kitchen and put on clothes whenever she wants. Then she stops listening to your other wives, and it's all down hill from there.

[Peasant Phill]

You know cute wolf you are more right than I feel comfortable with you being. I was definetly far too jealous and untrustworthy towards her and it bit me in the ass. I think the real reason for the breakup is that she needed time to herself.

As for the FWB...... we are going through with it. Though what changes it a bit in my eyes is that we made a pact we would not hook up with anyone else for the duration.

I really think its a distance thing, she really treasures her privacy while I have very few barriers between my public and private life in comparison.

In other words, she didn't break up with you but she wants more 'alone' time.
it sucks that she had to resort to such measures but if you think she's worth it you should hang in there.

Did you guys argue about her wanting more time to herself or was this something out of he blue?

[Cute Wolf]

You know cute wolf you are more right than I feel comfortable with you being. I was definetly far too jealous and untrustworthy towards her and it bit me in the ass. I think the real reason for the breakup is that she needed time to herself.

As for the FWB...... we are going through with it. Though what changes it a bit in my eyes is that we made a pact we would not hook up with anyone else for the duration.

I really think its a distance thing, she really treasures her privacy while I have very few barriers between my public and private life in comparison.

well, then you should offer very sincere apology to her, and... hmm... some romantic surprises may work, just make sure you start to respect her privacy and private life first good luck

at least you know you're the wrong one in this position, just swallow your pride a bit and offer sincere apology, there is nothing better than heart to heart discussion in this matter.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

One of the inevitabilities that I've found with a friends-with-benefits situation is that, at some point, one of you will develop feelings for the other and it just leads to awkwardness; the whole point of it is the casual, no-strings aspect. In this situation, the feelings are already established and even if she can turn them off and just see you as a sex object, you cannot do that yourself... she means more to you than that, I'm sure.

Yeah, you can carry this on and get your rocks off at the same time, but you'll feel worse for it. My advice would be to steer clear, because she needs to take you back on your own merits or move on, not use you as a means for getting off.

If she doesn't want you as a whole, she doesn't deserve to have you at all. :3

Absolutely true, and you know she's right because she's a woman, and women actually understand women.

However....

You know cute wolf you are more right than I feel comfortable with you being. I was definetly far too jealous and untrustworthy towards her and it bit me in the ass. I think the real reason for the breakup is that she needed time to herself.

As for the FWB...... we are going through with it. Though what changes it a bit in my eyes is that we made a pact we would not hook up with anyone else for the duration.

I really think its a distance thing, she really treasures her privacy while I have very few barriers between my public and private life in comparison.

Sounds like you haven't broken up, but you are drifting apart emotionally.

So my advice is this, tell her you will give her the space she needs, because you love her, not because you want space. Admit to being a screw up, and for Pete's sake, say it all calmly. This is the reality, obviously, so there's no need to get upset about it or exicted, it's just how it is.

If she loves you too she'll eventually tell you she didn't want to break up, but she felt claustraphobic, which she should admit not too long after you give her space, real space, not fake space where you don't see her but facebook stalk her and post "interesting" stories hoping for a reply just to have an excuse to interact with her.

Also, go running more often, it helps.

[Centurion1]

i think i go running pretty often but thanks......