Centurion Style Girl Problems

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 10-19-2011, 21:44

Originally Posted by Secura

One of the inevitabilities that I've found with a friends-with-benefits situation is that, at some point, one of you will develop feelings for the other and it just leads to awkwardness; the whole point of it is the casual, no-strings aspect. In this situation, the feelings are already established and even if she can turn them off and just see you as a sex object, you cannot do that yourself... she means more to you than that, I'm sure.

Yeah, you can carry this on and get your rocks off at the same time, but you'll feel worse for it. My advice would be to steer clear, because she needs to take you back on your own merits or move on, not use you as a means for getting off.

If she doesn't want you as a whole, she doesn't deserve to have you at all. :3

Absolutely true, and you know she's right because she's a woman, and women actually understand women.

However....

Originally Posted by Centurion1

You know cute wolf you are more right than I feel comfortable with you being. I was definetly far too jealous and untrustworthy towards her and it bit me in the ass. I think the real reason for the breakup is that she needed time to herself.

As for the FWB...... we are going through with it. Though what changes it a bit in my eyes is that we made a pact we would not hook up with anyone else for the duration.

I really think its a distance thing, she really treasures her privacy while I have very few barriers between my public and private life in comparison.

Sounds like you haven't broken up, but you are drifting apart emotionally.

So my advice is this, tell her you will give her the space she needs, because you love her, not because you want space. Admit to being a screw up, and for Pete's sake, say it all calmly. This is the reality, obviously, so there's no need to get upset about it or exicted, it's just how it is.

If she loves you too she'll eventually tell you she didn't want to break up, but she felt claustraphobic, which she should admit not too long after you give her space, real space, not fake space where you don't see her but facebook stalk her and post "interesting" stories hoping for a reply just to have an excuse to interact with her.

Also, go running more often, it helps.

**Centurion1** · 10-19-2011, 23:03

i think i go running pretty often but thanks......

**TheLastDays** · 10-20-2011, 09:26

Is "go running" some kind of euphemism I don't get?

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 10-20-2011, 21:18

Originally Posted by Centurion1

i think i go running pretty often but thanks......

Hence "more often" If that means so often you nacker your knees, so be it!

No, not really.

Originally Posted by Oh! TheLastDays!

Is "go running" some kind of euphemism I don't get?

Nope.

**Centurion1** · 10-20-2011, 21:41

i run an average of about 20 miles a week not counting PT....... i don't think i should run anymore unless i want to crush my legs down

(i'm not a natural runner)

**johnhughthom** · 10-20-2011, 21:58

You sure she didn't get jealous because you were spending more time with your Prophesy of Pendor wife than with her?

**Cute Wolf** · 10-21-2011, 12:53

Originally Posted by johnhughthom

You sure she didn't get jealous because you wereor s spending more time with your Prophesy of Pendor wife than with her?

or spending more time with pinkie pie?

**Fisherking** · 10-21-2011, 13:11

Cent,

I think he was just advising something else that spurs endorphins. There are also cold showers.

Anyway, it is likely that the crux was hit upon by CW earlier on. You mean something to her.

Some people just need more space than others and trust and respect are very important in any relationship.

Jealousy and control do not further human understanding.

With a bit of space, time, and understand chances are you guys may be back together in a little while.