Will there be a change in a woman's preference on how a man should be?

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Women have told me that they prefer a man who is intelligent. At the same time, they want a man who isn't arrogant. They want a guy to be humorous, which can get confusing for us guys when trying to balance out the three. A guy needs to be healthy too.

I was told that a woman prefers an intelligent man because she seeks a man who could take care of her and could pass on good genes to their children. This has been ingrained in a woman's mind from generation to generation. Is it just me or do you guys don't emphasize a woman's intellect as much as a woman does to a man? From what I've seen, I can't imagine a woman falling in love with the character whom Ashton Kutcher acted as in That '70s Show, but I certainly know a lot of men who'd date/marry a female equivalent.

What if that woman's need disappears? What if more and more women gain powerful positions? I think more and more women would no longer feel the need to marry a guy who is more intelligent, older and wealthier than herself. I know of one successful woman who said that she'd marry a younger guy whose style she could change if she wants to. Another woman somewhat like her is my older cousin who came from a wealthy family. She married a guy who wasn't wealthy. She was mainly attracted to her looks. I think she plays the dominant role because of the wealth that her parents give her. She controls the money management of the couple, tries to control what friends her man should hang around with, and even controls what hairstyle her husband should have. This guy isn't weak and submissive to the others.

I could see more and more women think less about a man's intellect and wealth in the future.

There is some evidence that more successful women raise the bar, which makes sense because however much you make you will have to take some time off for having children and your partner needs to be able to take up the economic slack to maintain your lifestyle.

Your older cousin sounds not unusual, my mother has always controlled the money (my father has no bank card) but she does not earn the majority of it. On the other hand, if she's trying to control who he associates with, he is clearly under her thumb and somewhat weak willed if he puts up with that.

I really like Intelligent women, I find it an attractive trait.

So do I, especially ones who are gue with me, and are feminists.

But I think some people try to seperate men and women as if they are a completely separate species. It really isn't the case. Men and women are identical yet there is some social stigma/norms which are placed upon them which bizarrely could make the same person as a male and as a female "completely different" in how they are viewed.

My and women are not a seperate species, but they do have fundamentally different ways of viewing the world, and that is true accross cultures. Putting that down to "stigma" is unreasonable, because it assumes that the supposed sexism arose in a vacume, rather than as a reflection of our genuine sexual asymetry.

For example, think of the male/female dumbgoodlooking ones, and the male/female nerdyones. They are essentially the same, just viewed from different angles.

Not really, the female nerd is a different beast. Not only is she usually attractive, because the nerdy in a man is cute in a girl, but unlike the male nerd she doesn't consider "nerding it up" to be a good date.

The male "nerd" is just an intelligent man who isn't any good at being a "man", because as soon as you demonstrate "manliness" you cease to be a nerd, while the female nerd is perfectly feminine to begin with, she just pretends to be less nerdy for the sake of her boyfriend.