Am I being a snob?

[Kagemusha]

True. To abandon all desire is the perfect way to be happy. That is what the sages of old supposedly did over here.
But don't you see how paradoxical it is? Instead of a way for a person to attain their happiness by fulfilling their desires, it is a way that teaches them to abandon all their desires....I mean, what is happiness worth if to be happy, one must change their definition happiness altogether?
Like Tincow said, compromise and balance is the key.

But maybe we are misunderstanding the point. the pursuit of happiness is not happiness itself. Maybe what the wisdom says is that when you stop looking you can find something.
Maybe we should be more happy towards what is and who we are compared to using energy so much into how things could be and what we might have and worrying about that. It could be that most of us are lot more happy then we realize we are and i think Tincow is essentially saying that also.

[rajpoot]

But maybe we are misunderstanding the point. the pursuit of happiness is not happiness itself. Maybe what the wisdom says is that when you stop looking you can find something.
Maybe we should be more happy towards what is and who we are compared to using energy so much into how things could be and what we might have and worrying about that. It could be that most of us are lot more happy then we realize we are and i think Tincow is essentially saying that also.

I agree with you. One has to be fully aware of what they want and what they have, before they do anything. I took it for granted, the fact, that a man knows what he has, and what he truly wants, before he does anything.