Quote Originally Posted by Husar View Post
As for the problem, uhm, it's up to her to realize that her boyfriend is a jerk, isn't it?
Surely there may be a chance for you to get her, but then you'll always have to be afraid that one day she will hug another guy like she hugs you and then you will feel a strong urge to kill him in order to protect your possession and......*ahem*, drifting away a bit, but I personally find it problematic, it's a problem I've had before.
On one hand you want her, on the other hand, do you really want a girl who switches boyfriends easily? It helps that he is a jerk, but then she should leave him for being a jerk, not because you convinced her to prefer you over him or so. Given that you aren't looking for a one-night-stand or similarly short-lived relationship of course. It may just be that she likes jerks anyway, because jerks can protect her etc.
I don't think it's fair to judge someone for going through a lot of boyfriends/girlfriends while still in high school, most people at that age don't know what they want yet and don't have the skills and maturity for a long term relationship.


Hooahguy, I think Monk makes a good point about over-analyzing the situation. But, I do think it's possible for people to change their minds, especially when it's been a few years. So don't lose hope, but you definitely shouldn't make a move at this point either. You're lucky to have a close friendship with a girl that's special to you, so just enjoy what you have, and be patient and see how things play out in the long run. In the meantime, date other girls. That will help you get your mind off her and you might even find someone else you want to start a relationship with.