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    This is obviously dysfunctional and not healthy. You should seek professional help in my opinion.
    Why?

    I mean, yes, obviously this is dysfunctional in the sense that I can't function in a relationship but why seek professional help? At the end of the day, far worse men than me enter into relationships, get their girlfriends pregnant then freak out and leave - should they all seek professional help, and if so what proportion of the population should be in therapty/medicated?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla View Post
    Why?I mean, yes, obviously this is dysfunctional in the sense that I can't function in a relationship but why seek professional help? At the end of the day, far worse men than me enter into relationships, get their girlfriends pregnant then freak out and leave - should they all seek professional help, and if so what proportion of the population should be in therapty/medicated?
    Don't be an idiot PVC. You are smarter than this. You know the fallacy of composition (I think that is the right term) you are throwing out here. Being irresponsible in a relationship as you describe is not the same as admiting defeat in life at age 25.Get help. Why? Why not.

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    PVC, if you're having trouble finding women, then focus on your career and get rich and successful. At that point they'll be finding you, you'll just need to choose which ones and/or how many.
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    Facebook is for bad humour and posting embarassing pictures of last nights drunkeness.

    Nothing else.
    Still maintain that crying on the pitch should warrant a 3 match ban

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoreTore View Post
    Facebook is for bad humour and posting embarassing pictures of last nights drunkeness.
    The pictures that potentially can come back to haunt you decades later.
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    You sound like an ass

    You can wrap it up in all the flowerly, intellctual, hoiler than thou language you want.

    You are still an ass.

    You know how you rectify this situation

    Stop making girls cry

    Be nice
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    Quote Originally Posted by Strike For The South View Post
    You sound like an ass

    You can wrap it up in all the flowerly, intellctual, hoiler than thou language you want.

    You are still an ass.

    You know how you rectify this situation

    Stop making girls cry

    Be nice
    I'm sorry, where did I say I wasn't an ass?

    Hey, I broke it - I admit that, if you really care I used a combination of not-being-able-to-deal-with-intense-emotions and -I-can't-keep-my-temper-in-check so I'll storm off.

    I already said I'm crap at even trying to do meaningful relationships with women, so I no longer subject them to my attempts at intimacy.

    As for nice, I'll go one better - I'm generally considered "kind".

    Until I try to be anything more than friends, then evberyone gets hurt. So now I try to get into those situations.

    Also, you guys really are hard, eh?
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    At this point, I guess it is none of my business to keep pushing my opinion on you. My maternal instant got the best of me. But I hope everything turns out well for you PVC.


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    Quote Originally Posted by rvg View Post
    The pictures that potentially can come back to haunt you decades later.
    They'll only haunt me if I care.

    Besides, if they haven't understood what I'm like after meeting me in person, seeing ymy facebook pics isn't going to do them any good in that regard. After all, what pictures do is document reality. It's not like I change personality on pictures. If they can handle real-life HoreTore, they can handle pictures of me sucking a lamb bone that oddly resemble a penis, with a less than sober facial expression.
    Still maintain that crying on the pitch should warrant a 3 match ban

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    Just wait till you're 35 and then date some other 35 year olds. In the meantime make the most of being single.

    I thought you were 30 something already though so what do I know

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    Quote Originally Posted by HoreTore View Post
    They'll only haunt me if I care.
    You might care if the photo ends up costing you a lucrative contract or an executive job promotion.
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    Don't be an idiot PVC. You are smarter than this. You know the fallacy of composition (I think that is the right term) you are throwing out here. Being irresponsible in a relationship as you describe is not the same as admiting defeat in life at age 25.Get help. Why? Why not.
    No, why?

    I'm being charitable if I say I'm a hard man to get on with, certainly to live with. One of my housemates from university (also female) catagorically refuses to speak with me ever. I have plenty of friends, I get on well with people at work, but trying to form that meaningful relationship just always ends in floods of tears.

    I mean come on, we're talking about someone here I never actually pursued as a reomantic partner, but I still hurt her so badly she doesn't want me in her life.

    For me, personally, it just isn't worth it.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla View Post
    No, why?

    I'm being charitable if I say I'm a hard man to get on with, certainly to live with. One of my housemates from university (also female) catagorically refuses to speak with me ever. I have plenty of friends, I get on well with people at work, but trying to form that meaningful relationship just always ends in floods of tears.

    I mean come on, we're talking about someone here I never actually pursued as a reomantic partner, but I still hurt her so badly she doesn't want me in her life.
    Doesn't this make it apparent that there is something wrong with your logic here? You are not suffering from a systematic mental disorder that prevents you from even communicating with other human beings. You are fundamentally a normal, decent guy with some issues, just like everyone other guy out there. Issues that can be worked out, if you seek help. Your problems don't in any way have to be taken for granted.

    For me, personally, it just isn't worth it.
    But it really is. By seeking help you may be able to have a healthy romantic relationship in the future. All it takes is to just open yourself with a trusted professional. Hell, you are opening yourself to strangers on the internet, so what is really holding you back from possibly being happier?
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