So... What's the protocol when you find out via facebook that...

**CountArach** · 05-08-2012, 13:18

Sorry to hear that you're so broken up. But you'll do fine, you seem like a really good bloke.

Do you really easily get obsessed with things and people? I know that in my own experience I would get really taken with someone for an extended period of time and even after being rejected etc I would still feel that attachment. It would last until something devastating broke it and then I would just be able to move on. So you may come out of this stronger and more open to being with other people. I would agree with everyone recommending seeing someone about the emotional thing. If you can get help for this then your 'problem' might be mitigated.

**Fragony** · 05-08-2012, 13:28

Originally Posted by CountArach

Sorry to hear that you're so broken up. But you'll do fine, you seem like a really good bloke.

Do you really easily get obsessed with things and people? I know that in my own experience I would get really taken with someone for an extended period of time and even after being rejected etc I would still feel that attachment. It would last until something devastating broke it and then I would just be able to move on. So you may come out of this stronger and more open to being with other people. I would agree with everyone recommending seeing someone about the emotional thing. If you can get help for this then your 'problem' might be mitigated.

You sound like a classical narcist CA, you as well PVC. That is not meant as an insult, it might clear up the sky a little if you seek it out. Look it up and see if you recognise
anything.

From wiki

Q. Is narcissism misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder or autism? Is narcissism misdiagnosed as bipolar disorder or autism? It would seem to me that Bipolar and some forms of Autism are equally likely to be misdiagnosed as NPD.

Good question

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 05-08-2012, 13:50

Originally Posted by CountArach

Sorry to hear that you're so broken up. But you'll do fine, you seem like a really good bloke.

Do you really easily get obsessed with things and people? I know that in my own experience I would get really taken with someone for an extended period of time and even after being rejected etc I would still feel that attachment. It would last until something devastating broke it and then I would just be able to move on. So you may come out of this stronger and more open to being with other people. I would agree with everyone recommending seeing someone about the emotional thing. If you can get help for this then your 'problem' might be mitigated.

In my case it's more that I'm naturally suspicious of people because I have trouble reading them, if I do form an attachment it is extremely full on, and it tends to sneak up on me. In this case though, she didn't actually dissuade me from forming an attachment, in fact I'd say she actively encouraged it, until she dumped her then boyfriend and I think suddenly realised we were closer than she was comfortable with.

I mean, this was someone who, once upon a time, we made time for each other to meet up for at least an hour once a week outside of classes etc.

Originally Posted by Fragony

You sound like a classical narcist CA, you as well PVC. That is not meant as an insult, it might clear up the sky a little if you seek it out. Look it up and see if you recognise anything.

Thanks Frag. A real narcissist is a self-lover (steady), it's more likely I'm emotional fixated in general.

**Fragony** · 05-08-2012, 14:08

You are just talking about how it is to you, just saying..

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 05-08-2012, 14:14

Originally Posted by Fragony

You are just talking about how it is to you, just saying..

I'm not that self centred, if I was I would be telling you and different story - one which ended with a lot more screaming, then begging, then probably more screaming.

God's honest truth, I feel I screwed this part of my life up, but this part specifically and not my whole life.

**Fragony** · 05-08-2012, 14:23

Originally Posted by Philipvs Vallindervs Calicvla

I'm not that self centred, if I was I would be telling you and different story - one which ended with a lot more screaming, then begging, then probably more screaming.

God's honest truth, I feel I screwed this part of my life up, but this part specifically and not my whole life.

These moments, I collect them

**Philippus Flavius Homovallumus** · 05-08-2012, 14:50

Originally Posted by Fragony

These moments, I collect them

I collect little metal figures.

What do you collect, my idiot posts or your failures?

I'm genuinely confused.

**CountArach** · 05-08-2012, 15:00

Originally Posted by Fragony

You are just talking about how it is to you, just saying..

That isn't narcissism, that is introspection.

**Kagemusha** · 05-08-2012, 15:06

Towards the initial question. Do what you must in order to get it out from your system. If you cant, time is your friend. It is in the past, so let go of it.

**Greyblades** · 05-08-2012, 16:17

So... What's the protocol when you find out via facebook that the Girl-I-was-not-actually-dating-but-had-a-wierd-non-sexual-relationship-with has just got engaged.

Methinks if someone knew for sure they would make a killing in self help books. Make sure you dont do something that makes you think of any episode of Law&Order SVU.