What to do when attraction runs dry...

[PanzerJaeger]

Hypothetically, you are __________ with your partner.

Compatible - yes.
Comfortable - yes.
Trusting - yes.
Financially invested - yes.
Emotionally invested - yes.
Sexually attracted - no.

Do you stay or go?

[Moros]

Do you feel like going or do you feel like staying? Isn't that the simple determining factor. Don't we just usually make these thing out to be more complicated than they really are?

[Kagemusha]

You are the only person with the answer for your question.

[The Stranger]

get a lover!

[Ronin]

Hypothetically, you are __________ with your partner.

Compatible - yes.
Comfortable - yes.
Trusting - yes.
Financially invested - yes.
Emotionally invested - yes.
Sexually attracted - no.

Do you stay or go?

except for the financial investment, that's the description of a friend...not a mate....go.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Hypothetically, you are __________ with your partner.

Compatible - yes.
Comfortable - yes.
Trusting - yes.
Financially invested - yes.
Emotionally invested - yes.
Sexually attracted - no.

Do you stay or go?

The key question is "was it there before"

If it's gone, then it can come back, if it was never there then you're wasting your time.

If it has just gone walk about I would think it would be worth talking about it with said partner.

[a completely inoffensive name]

Hypothetically, you are __________ with your partner.

Compatible - yes.
Comfortable - yes.
Trusting - yes.
Financially invested - yes.
Emotionally invested - yes.
Sexually attracted - no.

Do you stay or go?

How can you even say for sure you are not sexually attracted if you haven't even tried out nipple clamps in the bedroom?

[PanzerJaeger]

How can you even say for sure you are not sexually attracted if you haven't even tried out nipple clamps in the bedroom?

Who says that hasn't happened?

[a completely inoffensive name]

Who says that hasn't happened?

My home videos....errr, I mean, intuition.

Have you....you know....had her massage the "male g-spot" if you know what I mean?

[Strike For The South]

dude, sex is the easy part.

Just remember what first attracted you to that person, do not force the intercourse. Sex will happen

You check off boxes most young couples are 5-10 years away from checking off

Of course, if you feel the spark can not be reconciled, leave. But you asking the question makes me feel otherwise

[Major Robert Dump]

I think it depends on the sexual attraction to begin with, why it was lost, and what can be done to bring it back, and/or if the parties are willing to do it.

Is it physical, or an emotional thing?

If this can be solved by some time on the treadmill then it is honestly best to be forthcoming but tactful. If it is the result of a personality change it is much more complicated. For example, I lost interest in a woman once when I found out that she listened to Rush.

[Andres]

Hypothetically, you are __________ with your partner.

Compatible - yes.
Comfortable - yes.
Trusting - yes.
Financially invested - yes.
Emotionally invested - yes.
Sexually attracted - no.

Do you stay or go?

Don't delude yourself. Sex is a fundamental part of your relationship. Like every other part of your relationship, it's something you can work on. It's important that you know what the problem is: are you bored with your current sex life, because, well, it's boring and always the same or are you really not physically attracted to your partner anymore (or perhaps you never really were?).

Talk. Say what you like. Be very open about it. In a good relationship, you don't have to tell each other everything, but it's very important that you have the feeling that, if need be, you can tell each other everything. Experiment. Can be simple things, like sex in candlelight and with relaxing music in the background. Or you can do very naughty things. And don't take the experiments too serious. Even if whatever you try doesn't turn you on, you'll have a few good laughs. Learn to know each others' body; say what you want, be prepared to give what your partner wants. If you can't do that or you really don't feel like doing that with your current partner, the relationship won't be long term and you'll break up eventually. You'll both become frustrated and it will have effects on all other aspects of your relationship sooner or later.

[Voigtkampf]

Ah, kids... The damn youth is wasted on you schmucks.

Here is a bit of wisdom, short and to the point, also something you will not listen to.

Every relationship is based on three pillars: financial stability, friendship and sex.

One of those areas can be lacking somewhat and others can compensate, but if any of them is lacking severely (or more of them), it doesn't spell good for your relationship.

Also, you can't delete your Facebook. Once you are in, you are in forever.

Sex is the segment that will go away soonest. The attraction, the stronger it is in the beginning, will dilute itself sooner. You know, the brighter you burn and all that jazz. Been around the block few times, trust me. It takes hard work to keep it alive. It goes from passionate, fulfilling sex that lasts for hours to a 5 minute missionary once a month.

Solutions? Keep your sex life alive, work on it. And that is an art in and on itself.