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    How can you even say for sure you are not sexually attracted if you haven't even tried out nipple clamps in the bedroom?
    Who says that hasn't happened?

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    Quote Originally Posted by PanzerJaeger View Post
    Who says that hasn't happened?
    My home videos....errr, I mean, intuition.

    Have you....you know....had her massage the "male g-spot" if you know what I mean?


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    Old Town Road Senior Member Strike For The South's Avatar
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    dude, sex is the easy part.

    Just remember what first attracted you to that person, do not force the intercourse. Sex will happen

    You check off boxes most young couples are 5-10 years away from checking off

    Of course, if you feel the spark can not be reconciled, leave. But you asking the question makes me feel otherwise
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    I think it depends on the sexual attraction to begin with, why it was lost, and what can be done to bring it back, and/or if the parties are willing to do it.

    Is it physical, or an emotional thing?

    If this can be solved by some time on the treadmill then it is honestly best to be forthcoming but tactful. If it is the result of a personality change it is much more complicated. For example, I lost interest in a woman once when I found out that she listened to Rush.
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    Give me her phone number and I'll spare you the dilemma.


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    There is far more to a partner than just sexual attraction. If that last point is so critical to you constantly, then are you really ready to settle down?

    Sex comes and goes, but having that intimate deep loving relationship with some one cannot be replaced. I had so many of your other choices being "No" 's, that I would gladly swap them for some one I didn't find sexually attractive. To make it move easier to answer, I will simply put it this way.

    Do you love them?

    If answer is yes, stay. If answer is no, go.
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    What's with the 'she' he said partner

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    If you are not sexually attracted to your partner, you probably need to end the relationship. Sex is an incredibly important part of any long-term relationship, and few things cause more problems than when partners do not fulfill each others' sexual needs. At best, one person ends up very sexually frustrated, and at worst it results in outright resentment and extramarital affairs. The only reason to remain in a relationship with someone you are not sexually attracted to is (1) they are not sexually attracted to you either and (2) sexuality is truly unimportant to both of you. If both of these criteria are met, it is theoretically possible to remain in a fulfilling relationship. However, this is extremely rare and tends to only happen when people have low sexual interest for biological reasons (such as age or disability). In addition, #2 is extremely hard to determine, because it is a difficult topic to have an honest conversation about. In any case, do not remain in the relationship unless you are willing to sit the other person down and tell them that you are not sexually attracted to them. If you are unwilling to have this conversation, regardless of the reason, you need to end it.


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    Pj I thought you were asexual or used gun barrels.... My world is changing far too much around me

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