What to do when attraction runs dry...

[Major Robert Dump]

I think it depends on the sexual attraction to begin with, why it was lost, and what can be done to bring it back, and/or if the parties are willing to do it.

Is it physical, or an emotional thing?

If this can be solved by some time on the treadmill then it is honestly best to be forthcoming but tactful. If it is the result of a personality change it is much more complicated. For example, I lost interest in a woman once when I found out that she listened to Rush.

[Vladimir]

Give me her phone number and I'll spare you the dilemma.

[Beskar]

There is far more to a partner than just sexual attraction. If that last point is so critical to you constantly, then are you really ready to settle down?

Sex comes and goes, but having that intimate deep loving relationship with some one cannot be replaced. I had so many of your other choices being "No" 's, that I would gladly swap them for some one I didn't find sexually attractive. To make it move easier to answer, I will simply put it this way.

Do you love them?

If answer is yes, stay. If answer is no, go.

[Fragony]

What's with the 'she' he said partner

[TinCow]

If you are not sexually attracted to your partner, you probably need to end the relationship. Sex is an incredibly important part of any long-term relationship, and few things cause more problems than when partners do not fulfill each others' sexual needs. At best, one person ends up very sexually frustrated, and at worst it results in outright resentment and extramarital affairs. The only reason to remain in a relationship with someone you are not sexually attracted to is (1) they are not sexually attracted to you either and (2) sexuality is truly unimportant to both of you. If both of these criteria are met, it is theoretically possible to remain in a fulfilling relationship. However, this is extremely rare and tends to only happen when people have low sexual interest for biological reasons (such as age or disability). In addition, #2 is extremely hard to determine, because it is a difficult topic to have an honest conversation about. In any case, do not remain in the relationship unless you are willing to sit the other person down and tell them that you are not sexually attracted to them. If you are unwilling to have this conversation, regardless of the reason, you need to end it.

[Centurion1]

Pj I thought you were asexual or used gun barrels.... My world is changing far too much around me

[Peasant Phill]

Sexual frustration can lead to a lot of problems in an otherwise good relationship. I'm not saying that it may not work out but speaking from experience, it's something that can poison the entire relationship.

[Lemur]

What do you do?

[stratigos vasilios]

May I ask a more personal question? You said you are emotionally and financially invested, are you children invested too? That would be quite a critical factor that cannot be ignored.

Attraction can come in waves, sometimes you might think that you'll never be attracted to the same person ever again but then they might do something that triggers a response (both emotionally and literally...) and you might find them sexually attractive once more. I wouldn't imagine ending a relationship just because you're no longer sexually attracted to your partner (or vice versa) is necessary, especially since you're heavily invested together in other aspects. You can always discuss the 'fading' attraction and try and trigger some extra romance or spice into your routine, this might trigger a re-attraction feeling.