What to do when attraction runs dry...

[Strike For The South]

No kids, thankfully. And yes, I should not have started a thread with so little time to post in it at the moment.

But yeah, how can you say "You've done everything right and I really care about you, but sex is a chore and I'm constantly thinking about other people"; or even, "you've gained some weight and you don't keep yourself up anymore and I don't find you attractive"?

You can't, or at least I can't. So I won't. It's arrogant and awful and says a lot about my own personality faults, but it is how I feel. I mean, I work out and try to look my best, but I'm no 10, so I have no place to be judgemental - but I cannot control attraction.

Obviously the relationship and keeping this person in my life is worth so much more than sex, but sometimes I feel like I'm way too young to be this bored.

Better now than in 10 years when you have 1 bank account and 2 kids.

If you think this is beyond reconciliation, end it now. Do not drag it out becuase of some abstract sense of personal honor

[a completely inoffensive name]

Delete your facebook, hit the gym, lawyer up.

[Prussian to the Iron]

Delete your facebook, hit the gym, lawyer up.

Ah, the wise words of ACIN repeated again. I have that quote on my facebook, with you credited.

I believe we ALL know I'm no relationship expert...but for me, though a functional relationship comes first, sex is very important. In fact it's usually the primary thing that I do. And I can have some leeway, but in the end, not being attracted to someone just isn't fair for either of you; for them, they may have caused it, but it still isn't fair to be just accepted rather than embraced as a partner. For you, obviously it's not fair to be stuck with someone you aren't attracted to and feel required to carry on. The way I see it, if it doesn't come back or if they continue to get larger and your attraction to them falls lower, it won't ever recover to what it once was, and ultimately won't work out in the long run. Better to end it now and start looking for someone who can satisfy your needs than drag it out with this person.

[The Stranger]

lol... your post is so hilarious! the tact :D