Attractive and Tall Woman at the Counter

[Shaka_Khan]

I'm impressed at the number of highly qualified members in this forum. We have doctors and teachers in here. This forum is where I read the most intelligent debates on the internet. I'm sure that when it comes to unsurmountable obstacles, Totalwar.org members are the ones who can find a way. Posting this message on this forum already alleviates my concern.

The obstacle in my case involves a young lady in her mid-20s who works at the lobby of our building. She is an information assistant. I have never been attracted to a woman as much as I am to her. I look at her everytime I pass by her. Sometimes she looks at me, but I can't tell how she thinks of me. Once I got face to face with her suddenly when the elevator door opened between us. She looked and smiled at me beautifully. I got nervous and didn't say a word to her. The problem is that I don't know her, and I've never spoken to her. There are security guards who stand in the lobby. I'm a tall dude, but I'm skinny. These security guards are around my height and yet they're buff! I fear that she'd report me to those security guards if I talk to her in the wrong way.

Let's say that you're attracted to her as much as I am. What would you do?

[Fragony]

Well have some casual conversations first, tease with your eyes

[SwordsMaster]

Just stop one time and say something along the lines of 'Hi, I keep bumping into you, so I thought I'd introduce myself so we can at least say 'hello' properly.' If you follow that up with 'Khello, my name is Inigo Montoya.' You get extra points.

[Visor]

Just stop one time and say something along the lines of 'Hi, I keep bumping into you, so I thought I'd introduce myself so we can at least say 'hello' properly.' If you follow that up with 'Khello, my name is Inigo Montoya.' You get extra points.

This is definitely a good way to approach it.

[HopAlongBunny]

SwordsMaster and Kadagar_AV have it right. Introduce yourself, otherwise you become "That odd person always staring at me"

Keep it simple, smile and be polite.

[HoreTore]

Whenever a female cashier smiles to you, it means she's flirting with you. If she asks you for a bag, that's the codeword for "do me right now in the breakroom".

I assume it's the same with receptionists.

[Kadagar_AV]

Well, I for one would walk up and say, "Hello, my name is [insert name]. I must say that I think You are the most beautiful girl I have seen in my life, may I ask You out for a coffee some day?"

I never seen the need to make things more complicated than that.

[Fragony]

But you are a Swedish ski-teacher you are prey.

But anyhow, charm comes kinda naturally to me, I have no idea why but women like me. Key is laughing with your eyes when embarking in casual conversation I think. Just talk and be interesting.

[Hax]

In this thread: people on the internet telling eachother how good they are with women.

[Fragony]

In this thread: people on the internet telling eachother how good they are with women.

I am not kidding, no idea why, but women like me. I have it all the time I am flirted at wherever I go. I am not particulary handsome or well-build, I don't really understand it myself. Not bragging, it's just how it is.

[Philippus Flavius Homovallumus]

Well, I for one would walk up and say, "Hello, my name is [insert name]. I must say that I think You are the most beautiful girl I have seen in my life, may I ask You out for a coffee some day?"

I never seen the need to make things more complicated than that.

I cannot emphasise how true this is - she's likely say yes if you're halfway good looking, not completely awkward and she's single. If she doesn't so what? It's only coffee, it's not like you dropped down on one knee and swore your life to her, is it?

Even I can (and have) asked girls out for coffee.

[johnhughthom]

I've never asked a girl out for coffee, I don't think Irish men are allowed to.

[HoreTore]

I've never asked a girl out for coffee, I don't think Irish men are allowed to.

You're from Northern Ireland, aren't you?

What's the deal there, you ask girls out for "a pint and a bombed police station"?

[Ibrahim]

my advice is to simply not waste your time: you got better things to do I'm sure.

that and there's a good chance this won't work out. the pessimist in me.

if you still feel brave, just go up and talk to her. don't force it though.

[Jolt]

Well, I for one would walk up and say, "Hello, my name is [insert name]. I must say that I think You are the most beautiful girl I have seen in my life, may I ask You out for a coffee some day?"

And there you go. Best advice you can get. You'll get a straight-forward answer from her rather quickly.

Thread over.

[Fragony]

And there you go. Best advice you can get. You'll get a straight-forward answer from her rather quickly.

Thread over.

Worst advice ever if you are nervous though. I don't know, just act natural SK.

Edit: few pointers

-it doesn't matter what you say
-it doesn't matter what you say

Finaly, best one

-it doesn't really matter what you say

[Jolt]

Worst advice ever if you are nervous though. I don't know, just act natural SK.

Edit: few pointers

-it doesn't matter what you say
-it doesn't matter what you say

Finaly, best one

-it doesn't really matter what you say

Nervous guys can be endearing too. Or so every girl tells me.

[Kralizec]

Just follow Swordsmasters advice. If you wait longer, either by trying to come up with some contrived excuse to talk to her or by thinking of the best introduction ever, it will just get more awkward because shes already seen you walk by 1000x times.

Not that this is necessarily going to pay off, just pointing out that waiting too long is a bad idea.

[Lemur]

I look at her everytime I pass by her. Sometimes she looks at me, but I can't tell how she thinks of me.

Have you done the basics? Asked around, found out who she is, checked to see if you two have any common acquaintances or friends?

If not, yeah, just introduce yourself. Try to be chill. Something along the lines of, "We keep running into each other. Hi, I'm [x]."

It doesn't need to be complex. Beautiful women are people, too, with the exact same set of insecurities and oddities as everyone else.

[Fragony]

Mwah, bit too fast forward, pickup lines are what they are used to getting. Be casual and charming I'd say, not too much or you'll end up in friend-zone

[Tellos Athenaios]

Isn't the Frontroom the relationship advice sub forum?

[Fragony]

Some of us like to take it from the back you got a problem with that

[HoreTore]

The women I usually chase are charmed by a few well-timed Simone de Beauvoir-quotes.

I don't think I have much advice to give in this thread.

[Fragony]

Did you met her yet

[Strike For The South]

I agree with Swen

I feel unclean

[Papewaio]

Some of us like to take it from the back you got a problem with that

Not that there is anything wrong with that...

[Hax]

In other news, Fragony almost managed to type a grammatically correct sentence.

[Fragony]

In other news, Fragony almost managed to type a grammatically correct sentence.

Nothing wrong with that sentence

[Peasant Phill]

So @Shaka_Khan, any news?

To add on the current awkward flirt tactics. I've asked my current girlfriend out in the bathrooms of our work place. I was between her and the exit, that way, she couldn't get away. It was a marvolous ambush.