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    Quote Originally Posted by TinCow View Post
    Hopefully that was cathartic, but the best thing to do with that is throw it away. It is never a good idea to give an eight page letter about your feelings to an ex.
    This is where I am going to have to ignore your advice at the risk of hurting myself more. I am not going to disappear from all her friends lists and not even give her the courtesy to tell her why. I am not begging for her to come back nor am I trashing her in anger. It's just one last letter to end the tradition of letters we have had since we first started going out. The reason it's eight pages is because I had important stuff to say that I need her to think about before I end all communication. Stuff that is related to her own flaws which she has recognized since we started going out but never took the effort to fix. Stuff that she would only believe if it came from me. Most importantly it doesn't matter in the long run. I'm not going to see or talk to her for a long time but I want the last instance of communication to be better than me practically begging on Monday to take me back. I want to leave a stronger image than that. This is in all likeliness a dumb mistake, but if I am going to make one, I would rather it be about this than something with more severe consequences.

    Sorry Tincow. I promise to follow the rest of the advice to the T.


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    What 'severe consequences' would that be then, you are kinda worrying me

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    Quote Originally Posted by Fragony View Post
    What 'severe consequences' would that be then, you are kinda worrying me
    I'm just saying I would rather give a letter to my ex then idk snort some random prescription drugs at a party like one friend I knew.Haha oh damn, great timing by my car to have the battery die. Gotta call AAA now. Can't even get the letter to the house before she see's that I unfriended her. Huh, life is weird sometimes. I'm not even mad though.


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    I'm just saying I would rather give a letter to my ex then idk snort some random prescription drugs at a party like one friend I knew.Haha oh damn, great timing by my car to have the battery die. Gotta call AAA now. Can't even get the letter to the house before she see's that I unfriended her. Huh, life is weird sometimes. I'm not even mad though.
    I took the liberty of showing your posts to a friend of mine who is a professional psychologist, she's worried by your posts as well, as she calls it's 'burning up too fast'

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    Quote Originally Posted by a completely inoffensive name View Post
    This is where I am going to have to ignore your advice at the risk of hurting myself more. I am not going to disappear from all her friends lists and not even give her the courtesy to tell her why. I am not begging for her to come back nor am I trashing her in anger. It's just one last letter to end the tradition of letters we have had since we first started going out. The reason it's eight pages is because I had important stuff to say that I need her to think about before I end all communication. Stuff that is related to her own flaws which she has recognized since we started going out but never took the effort to fix. Stuff that she would only believe if it came from me. Most importantly it doesn't matter in the long run. I'm not going to see or talk to her for a long time but I want the last instance of communication to be better than me practically begging on Monday to take me back. I want to leave a stronger image than that. This is in all likeliness a dumb mistake, but if I am going to make one, I would rather it be about this than something with more severe consequences.

    Sorry Tincow. I promise to follow the rest of the advice to the T.
    I thought we were close to acceptance, instead we went back to bargaining. No doubt the woman has flaws. No doubt she referenced these flaws as the reason you two broke up. However, the flaws have nothing to do with why you two really broke up. I would put my money on distance and the curiosity that seems to infect young people. Once again, I feel the need to stress the point that in no way is this reflective of your worth nor is there much could you have done much to stop it.

    An 8 page treatise on her flaws will illicit scorn, pity, or some combination of the two. She has made her decision and remember, a decision is always strongest when you first make it. I realize that you are probably giving her the letter as I type this. Good luck brother
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