And who knows, against all the odds your ex and her "otherwise affianced" object of desire may end up happily wedded and enjoying a little white-picket-fenced abode somewhere. My dad got my mom to break an engagement in order to marry him...and they lived happily together for 45 years.
What's demonstrably clear is that YOU cannot connect with her any longer and find her choices unworthy of trust -- and that sense of trust is vital. You are clearly well shut of her.
I would caution you, however, to let go of your hate as rapidly as you may. After nerving you to make the best decision for you, it ceases to have much value and will only weigh on your spirit, not hers. Do not wish her ill, and do not let her memory impinge on your heart. Her future is hers, not yours, and you can rightfully reflect now that "there, but for the grace of God (at least metaphorically, I do not recall if you are a believer), go I."
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