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    I kind of promised myself I wouldn't make one of these again, but there you go. I'm horrendously out of touch with these things that's why I want a bit of perspective.

    Anyway, here's the story. Since I started going to this little church, there was a girl that looked nice so I thought I'll try to speak to her. I was in no mood for the mucking around of past experiences in this regard, so when I got a chance today, I approached her, and we were talking away. She seemed pretty receptive, and it wasn't me just keeping the conversation going. So at the end I said something along the lines of not having my mobile on me, but she could give me her number next time I see her and maybe she would want to do something sometime. And IIRC she said something like "yeah/dunno/could do". Hopefully the don't know bit was more about the vagueness of the way I put it, because like I said she did seem keen to chat. And she did seem to say it in a reasonably upbeat way.

    The thing is I'm worried I've been a bit forward since this was the first time I've talked to her. Remember the context of this happening at church and all. Heck at the Brethren places over the sea you would have to talk to a girl's dad to see her (never did that myself, just saying). Scotland is different and its a bit more happy clappy here, so I don't know if I've dun goofed or not. To make it more silly for all I know her parents were around when I asked for her number (only thought of that afterwards) since they were around somewhere.

    So, thoughts? Was I too forward? Does it look bad?

    I'm fed up with this crap where you never know where you stand. One time here I'm told I'm too timid and taking baby steps, then next time you say I was too direct. What is wanted from me? I don't know. I'm not cut out for games like this.

    You know it feels different this time. In the past cases I used to really care, but now I don't. I guess on some level I must because I made this thread, but at this points it's more that I... want to care. I just don't feel right in the head, haven't for a long time. I've had a really bad mentality this past while. I've tried to be 'sensible' again, go the good road, but circumstance seems to conspire against me. I've done everything right, kept my head down at university, got a First, I'm coming to the end of an internship that everyone said would make a difference, and even when they seem impressed with what I do, it means nothing because there's nothing at the end of it. Employers don't care what I've done, I've applied for hundreds of jobs and about 20% bother to send rejection responses. I always presumed I'd live like my parents, get a 9-5 and white picket fence etc... but I'm increasingly coming to realise that it's not going to be. Not having that life makes it impossible to integrate with the world around you in the more 'respectable' environment I am currently in. Other people don't get your situation, they don't get that the world has changed. I'm 23 and I feel like an old man. I'm done, finished. I've got nothing productive left to offer, I'm just a problem, just a burden, whether for the state or my parents. What a way to be at 23. I feel silly for coming back and trying to be sensible when I knew deep down that game was up. Don't really know what to do at this point.

    But please excuse that rant, maybe it gives a bit of perspective on things somehow, and I'm curious what people think on the thread topic.
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    Aren't we in a good mood. Cheer up mate. Just be yourself.

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    I am in no position to give you advice. But if I had to.

    Assume you done goof'd. Hit the gym, lawyer up and delete your facebook.
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    The faint of heart will never get the girl.

    I got rejected by my wife the first time I asked her out "I can't, I've got exams"

    Turns out she actually did have exams.

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    I'm not so sure you can solve your problems on a gaming forum... time to get out and see the world.

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    Quote Originally Posted by asai View Post
    I'm not so sure you can solve your problems on a gaming forum... time to get out and see the world.
    People in RL are usually less likely to respond and even if you just want them to listen, they need to be brought into a receptive state of mind through use of copious amounts of alcohol.
    People on gaming forums on the other hand are usually already drunk so it is easier.


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    Guys I'm most interested on thoughts on the bit I bolded, about whether I was too forward. Like I said, I'm out of touch with these things.

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    I'm already hitting the gym and I don't have facebook. Can't say I'm lawyered up but 2/3 is good enough.

    Quote Originally Posted by Papewaio View Post
    The faint of heart will never get the girl.
    I wasn't timid with this, like I said I think I may have been too forward. My rant is just me letting off steam and it really has nothing to do with the thread topic.

    Quote Originally Posted by asai View Post
    I'm not so sure you can solve your problems on a gaming forum... time to get out and see the world.
    I've seen plenty, I'm just trapped in this situation since I returned to live with my parents to do what I thought was the sensible thing. Of course, now I realise it wasn't. So I've put myself in a situation where I have no income, no independence, no friends, and generally living in a world I'm not really a part of, and with little prospect of change.
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    I have no idea, from your description, whether you were too forward or not... it's not about when you ask for a girl's number, it's how you ask for it and in what context - i.e. you need to be getting the right signals, otherwise... I don't think you did anything wrong, but I think you should back off a bit now and see what comes of it. If you do bump into her again, don't mention the number, just talk as you did before and try to take it from there. You will soon get the idea if she's avoiding you.

    This is obviously a summary of your current woes, from your perspective:
    So I've put myself in a situation where I have no income, no independence, no friends, and generally living in a world I'm not really a part of, and with little prospect of change.
    And perhaps that's the general vibe you give off to others?

    Instead of bemoaning your lot - find a job, any job (within reason), save some money, make some plans, give yourself something to plan for and look forward to, get some goals to aim for. Walk before you can run.
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    Screw the whole gimme-your-number thing.

    Be decisive. Ask her if she wants to go have coffee, catch a show, do some Bible study, go shopping for shoes or -- I'm not kidding here -- go get pedicures (while emphasizing you are not gay). The number thing only adds a hurdle and another step in the process. If she agrees to any of the above, then you set a time and day and then get her number. If she doesn't know or has other plans, then ask for her number and get a raincheck.

    Don't be scared to ask her to cut the BS and just say NO if she isn't interested (see Papes post about exams above) but find a way to do it so you don't come off as desperate or an egghead (do it jokingly).

    And do not, under any circumstances, try to be her best friend first, IE "lets just be pals and hang out" because rarely does being BFFs translate into a romantic relationship and it only sets you up for months if not years of being strung along. Been there done that, got the tattoo.

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    Quote Originally Posted by asai View Post
    And perhaps that's the general vibe you give off to others?
    I don't think so. I used to be very quiet/timid, but I'm pretty good at small talk and the like now. Like I said I think I got good signals when I was speaking to this girl, she seemed quite smiley/laughey etc and would pick up the conversation herself at times.

    Without meaning to sound like a douche, I know I don't look bad and I'm in good enough shape since people tell me as much. I'm well enough presented when I'm at church since I dress relatively formal.

    Speaking of vibes, I know I am a pretty serious person, every time I wear a my suit shirt/trousers etc I'm told I look like either a hitman or a guy on his way to court or security or something along those lines. I think that is maybe why I don't integrate too well here. Like I said its a pretty happy clappy place, it really is a million miles away from where I was living before. It was considered a notorious area, I spent half my days hanging out at the gyms there, I had my friends, we had the stuff that went on, I had my own place etc. I left that in part due to guilt-tripping and because my parents were unhappy with things and there were differences between them and my family there. They want me to go along the traditional path again, but there's just nothing here for me.

    Quote Originally Posted by asai View Post
    Instead of bemoaning your lot - find a job, any job (within reason), save some money, make some plans, give yourself something to plan for and look forward to, get some goals to aim for. Walk before you can run.
    Nobody will give me a job. I'm overqualified for rubbish jobs, and under-experienced for good jobs. My savings are about to run out. I don't think I can continue my internship much longer because I need to quit it to claim Jobseekers. Because, of course, I have to be available for 'work experience', ie stocking shelves for nothing, even though I am doing proper voluntary work experience right now. But, you know, companies went to the effort to lobby, so they need their free labour...

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    Screw the whole gimme-your-number thing.

    Be decisive. Ask her if she wants to go have coffee, catch a show, do some Bible study, go shopping for shoes or -- I'm not kidding here -- go get pedicures (while emphasizing you are not gay). The number thing only adds a hurdle and another step in the process. If she agrees to any of the above, then you set a time and day and then get her number. If she doesn't know or has other plans, then ask for her number and get a raincheck.
    Good advice, I wish I did that, since I kind of set myself up for the current ambiguity. I mean, the way I put the question she couldn't really give an affirmative answer. You live and learn...

    Quote Originally Posted by Major Robert Dump View Post
    And do not, under any circumstances, try to be her best friend first, IE "lets just be pals and hang out" because rarely does being BFFs translate into a romantic relationship and it only sets you up for months if not years of being strung along. Been there done that, got the tattoo.
    Well I won't be doing that, I'd make the world's worst BFF for a girl anyway. Before I came back here, my two worlds were where I was living, and then the Brethren community. So, about as good as an environment to meet young women as Saudi Arabia. I'm used to living in a man's world. I've never been casual friends with a girl.

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    What religion is this church if I may inquire??
    Well it used to be a Gospel Hall. It's pretty evangelical/fundamentalist, but like I said kind of happy clappy. Maybe kind of like American evangelical churches I guess. It's not quite what I'm used to and I don't fit in particularly well, especially since it's very family-orientated and I'm literally the one guy who goes on his own. It's not ideal but I wanted to go somewhere since it's a good influence for me and I should still take part in corporate worship. I guess I got so immersed living where I was I feel a bit like a foreigner here, even though I was born and raised here. Gah!

    Well, as you can all see, this thread goes well beyond the stated purpose. I think it was born more out of homesickness and frustration than anything. I'm an angry young man. What am I supposed to do?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Major Robert Dump View Post
    Screw the whole gimme-your-number thing.

    Be decisive. Ask her if she wants to go have coffee, catch a show, do some Bible study, go shopping for shoes or -- I'm not kidding here -- go get pedicures (while emphasizing you are not gay). The number thing only adds a hurdle and another step in the process. If she agrees to any of the above, then you set a time and day and then get her number. If she doesn't know or has other plans, then ask for her number and get a raincheck.

    Don't be scared to ask her to cut the BS and just say NO if she isn't interested (see Papes post about exams above) but find a way to do it so you don't come off as desperate or an egghead (do it jokingly).

    And do not, under any circumstances, try to be her best friend first, IE "lets just be pals and hang out" because rarely does being BFFs translate into a romantic relationship and it only sets you up for months if not years of being strung along. Been there done that, got the tattoo.

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    Yeah, you messed up big time. You should have asked "Hey woman! You want to take your shoes off, come down to my house and make me a sandwich?"
    If she says know, just pull out your club, knock her over the head, and drag her into your kitchen.
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    Just tell her that if a man does not ejaculate at least once a day, his risk of prostate cancer goes up tremendously. Doesn't she want people to get good healthcare?
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    On a happier note than the rest of this thread, I have a job interview today so here's hoping all goes well.
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    Here's an update. I didn't see here for a few weeks because she sometimes helps with stuff after the service, but last Sunday she came and initiated conversation with me which I presume is a good sign. She seems keen to talk but this time I left just by saying "see you later" because like I said I wonder if I was forward last time (given the church context).

    Anyway, I think the signs are good. So next time I will be direct and suggest an activity and then get her number as MRD says. I don't know what to suggest though. Sometimes it hits home how out of touch I am here, I miss my old circle of headcases, lol. What do normal people do? I have no idea.

    Heck do I have to get new clothes for this? All I have is a formal shirt or poverty clothes. Man, I really am out of touch.
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    Ask her if your right bicep is smaller than your left bicep. Tell her it's ok if she needs to feel with her hands in order to make a judgement. Then ask if she wants coffee at your place at 10pm tonight.

    If that does not work, delete your facebook, hit the gym and lawyer up.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhyfelwyr View Post
    Here's an update. I didn't see here for a few weeks because she sometimes helps with stuff after the service, but last Sunday she came and initiated conversation with me which I presume is a good sign. She seems keen to talk but this time I left just by saying "see you later" because like I said I wonder if I was forward last time (given the church context).

    Anyway, I think the signs are good. So next time I will be direct and suggest an activity and then get her number as MRD says. I don't know what to suggest though. Sometimes it hits home how out of touch I am here, I miss my old circle of headcases, lol. What do normal people do? I have no idea.

    Heck do I have to get new clothes for this? All I have is a formal shirt or poverty clothes. Man, I really am out of touch.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhyfelwyr View Post
    Heck do I have to get new clothes for this? All I have is a formal shirt or poverty clothes. Man, I really am out of touch.
    Now the weird thing is, there are clothes in-between that.

    There are the scrubs/lazy wear, which you only really put on in your house.
    Casual wear which you go out and about in, but nothing important.
    Smart Casual which you go out somewhere with a purpose/date/friendly catch-up/family gathering
    Smart/Suit which you use for formal occasions such as a wedding/etc

    Anyway, for activity, go somewhere you can interact. Whilst it is very tempting to go to the cinema, for first days, it is just awkward and you don't end up talking. You could arrange something casual and silly like bowling and you could be mildly entertained, the key is making good company to make it a true and proper time.

    Ideal dresscode would be smart-casual or good-casual (depending on activity). Looking like you made somewhat of an effort, being clean, hair done, clothes in good condition, etc. But don't overdress so a passerby might think "Where's the Queen?" and don't look shabby as in "Looks like Rhyfel made zero effort and doesn't care".

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    Actually, Lunch is a great one. You can have a simple bite to eat at a nice cafe or somewhere nice. It is usually not expensive and you get a good opportunity to talk/spend-time together. Find out about her hobbies and interests too. Perhaps she might be a member of English Heritage and you can look around an old church or site of historical interest together (very unlikely, unless you are lucky like my cousin).
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    There are the scrubs/lazy wear, which you only really put on in your house.
    Casual wear which you go out and about in, but nothing important.
    Smart Casual which you go out somewhere with a purpose/date/friendly catch-up/family gathering
    Smart/Suit which you use for formal occasions such as a wedding/etc
    I just wear polo shirts every day no matter what. I have like a dozen of them, or more.
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    Take her to the zoo.

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    'Actually, Lunch is a great one. You can have a simple bite to eat at a nice cafe or somewhere nice. It is usually not expensive and you get a good opportunity to talk/spend-time together. Find out about her hobbies and interests too. Perhaps she might be a member of English Heritage and you can look around an old church or site of historical interest together (very unlikely, unless you are lucky like my cousin).,

    Your masterplan, you just happen to be around. Can I buy you lunch is completily casual in social nteraction. But you do buy time. She will probably understand what you are doing but she will probably think it's cute. Dress casual.

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    Update, she has a boyfriend, mentioned casually in conversation today. She will do it's a small congregation so she wouldn't lie about something like that. I hadn't seen her for a few weeks due to my Gran being ill and then passing away, so if this boyfriend is a development since I made this thread, that's life.

    I actually feel pretty good about it now, I guess I was getting burdened in my own mind by the thought of it all, lol. TBH I know I need some time to get myself sorted out anyway, I've got a couple of stupidly minor ailments that have been debilitating me for ages I'm still getting sorted out. Between that and various things I've felt very down of late. Stuck back with the parents, no real prospects beyond temping from job to job, missing my friends, wasting away since I haven't been bulking due to my ailments. I'm glad though that I came back to Scotland because it meant I could give something back to my Gran before her passing, I was her main source of company and got her messages etc every day, so I can see why fate brought me back when it did.

    But as I've said I'm not happy where I am. My current temp job is most likely going to end in a few weeks, so between that and my Gran passing, if I get these ailments sorted, I will enjoy a freedom I have not enjoyed for a long time. Big if there though with my luck, lol. Still, I'm gonna get back on form God willing. I've feel like I've been neutered since coming back - having to suck up for internships, losing mass, looking lame - and all for nothing, looking for a life that doesn't exist anymore, not for me anyway. Hopefully I can soon go on a bulk, get the character out and get myself my own place across the sea again (got the savings building up), get back with my old mates and get back on form, because I am sick of this place.

    Excuse my rants, but there you go.
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    I wish I had your tenacity Rhy.
    In all these papers we see a love of honest work, an aversion to shams, a caution in the enunciation of conclusions, a distrust of rash generalizations and speculations based on uncertain premises. He was never anxious to add one more guess on doubtful matters in the hope of hitting the truth, or what might pass as such for a time, but was always ready to take infinite pains in the most careful testing of every theory. With these qualities was united a modesty which forbade the pushing of his own claims and desired no reputation except the unsought tribute of competent judges.

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    I wish I had your tenacity Rhy.
    What was I tenacious about? I only spoke to her maybe 3-4 times, learned she had a boyfriend, then moved on. Isn't that pretty standard fare?
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    Quote Originally Posted by Rhyfelwyr View Post
    What was I tenacious about? I only spoke to her maybe 3-4 times, learned she had a boyfriend, then moved on. Isn't that pretty standard fare?
    I'm talking about your last paragraph.
    In all these papers we see a love of honest work, an aversion to shams, a caution in the enunciation of conclusions, a distrust of rash generalizations and speculations based on uncertain premises. He was never anxious to add one more guess on doubtful matters in the hope of hitting the truth, or what might pass as such for a time, but was always ready to take infinite pains in the most careful testing of every theory. With these qualities was united a modesty which forbade the pushing of his own claims and desired no reputation except the unsought tribute of competent judges.

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    Rhy, sorry to hear about your Gran. At least you were in a position to spend some time with her before she passed.
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    I wish I had your tenacity Rhy.
    There's nothing admirable about it, it might seem bold but the reality is it is because I've got nothing to lose. I want stability and a normal, happy life as much as anybody but it seems to be ever elusive. For a little while I thought it might happen but then reality hits you in the face. A friend of a friend has real tenacity, he moved to Canada and did the whole 'Into the Wild' thing (srs), although he's back now lodging with this friend.

    Right now though, my priority is to sit like a normal personal. Pilonidal sinus and haemorrhoids - not even once.

    Heh, I'm kind of glad I'm not starting to see a girl under such circumstances when I'm a bit miserable.
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