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    I need to get something of my chest. Some of you know, but most don't that my wife was pregnant and the baby was due in the second half of August. Unfortunately, she got diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, a very rare disorder, about 15 days ago and she was admitted into a hospital. Things got complicated rather quickly, her health was in grave danger, and doctors were forced to deliver that baby yesterday, after just 26 weeks. They didn't expect the baby to pull through. Miraculously, she did.

    The not so good news is that she is in intensive care, in critical condition. I've been a member of this community for almost ten years, and consider many of you my friends, even though we often have different views on things. I've wanted to share my grief with you and to ask you to send a thought or say a prayer for my daughter, whatever you think may help. I don't care what, it's the intention that counts. I'm not a religious or a superstitious man, but an experience such as this can change a man.

    We've already pulled off one miracle, but we need one more.

    I'm not sure how often I'll be here in the immediate future, maybe I'll just come and post something totally unrelated in a different thread but I will read this thread and I will appreciate your support, even if I don't answer. Thank you.

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    Congratulations on the birth of your daughter, I hope and pray God keeps all three of you safe.
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarmatian View Post
    I need to get something of my chest...
    Sorry to hear this bro. Best wishes to your wife and your baby. Don't lose hope.
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    I wish the best for all your family, Sarmatian. Hopefully, everything will go well.

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    I wish you and your family only the best, we are all hoping everything will have a happy ending.

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    Faith has nothing to do with it. Strong baby and good doctors made the difference, and they'll do it again!

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    At times like this I wish I was religious, so I could feel like I actually could do something...

    *And no, I don't mean that in any bad way what so ever*

    All I can say is... What a trauma you must be living through right now... I can not even begin to understand your uncertainty and anxiousness!!

    My hope and thoughts go out to you and your family tonight and on, and regardless of the outcome I hope you will let us know.

    Also don't hesitate to post about what happened regardless of the outcome, I will personally bash anyone who would write something stupid.

    Godspeed, and ALL my best wishes mate.

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    It's been ages, but if you think it'll help, I'll pray.Wishing you, your wife and the little one all the best.If you want to talk, vent, need a distraction, whatever, then we're here for you.
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    I don't pray but my thoughts are with you, I hope things will turn out fine.

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    Best wishes. Keep yourself healthy so you can look after your wife.
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    All the best to you and your family.
    I hope it turns out well.


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    You got it. All the best to you and your family. May the doctors, nurses and hospital staff all be on their "A" game with your wife and daughter.
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    Hope everything turns out well, my thoughts are with you.
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    All my thoughts and prayers go out for your family. Best wishes for a speedy recovery for you all.


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    Best wishes to your family and strength for you all in order to pull through this ordeal.
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    Best wishes for you and your family. I hope everything will turn out well.
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    May the technology and science that saved me be good for you and your family. Best wishes.
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    I will keep your daughter in my prayers.
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    Blimey mate that's heavy stuff. Being a father and a grandfather I know what you're going through. I was in a very similar situation 20 years ago. Keep your spirits up and support your wife. She'll need it. Take some time for yourself as well, you also need it.

    I shall finish by saying that I wish health and happiness for you all at this time.
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    Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

    Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

    We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.

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    I'm sad to read this. You have my compassion, Sarmatian. Being a dad myself I'm having a glimpse on the magnitude of your loss, perhaps. For what it's worth, I'm sending some good thoughts.

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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarmatian View Post
    Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

    Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

    We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.
    Take care of your wife mate... Whatever YOU feel, she will probably feel it harder... Just keep that in mind...

    This is when you have to step up as husband and be the rock to rely on... I hope she has good friends she can talk to, if not you will have to fill that job too...

    I am extremely sorry for you mate. But this is really where you have to take a step back from your own feelings, and concentrate on your wifes.. I don't mean to sound cold hearted, but you are probably more able to be stabile than her, if I know you right from over the years...

    My thoughts will go out to you today though, love from Sweden!!

    Also, of course I am terribly sorry for your loss. F**K man!!



    EDIT: Bear in mind that your wife will probably blame herself... That's fully normal... That is why I am so hardcore about looking after her. Don't let that thought fester in her mind!!

    It will poison her forever if you let it root...
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    Quote Originally Posted by Sarmatian View Post
    Thank you guys. I appreciate all your support.

    Unfortunately, we didn't make it. She fought valiantly for 48 hours, but early this morning doctors gave us the sad news.

    We're holding up, but it is hard. I've spent all this time comforting my wife, and now that she's asleep, I'm starting to feel how much it hurts me. To rob a baby of her future, it's the most terrible thing in the world. Thank you again for everything.
    I am really sorry to hear that, Sarmatian. Losing a child is the worst thing that could happen to someone, so you and your wife have my sincere condolences. I truly hope that you will both manage to overcome the difficulties.

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    Really sorry for you, my condoleances. Can't say anything nor should I, my sympaties and good luck dealing with your loss.

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    That's tough, Sarmatian, I wish you and your wife lots of strength!


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    So sad mate, sorry for your loss.

    I shall elaborate on my trouble 20 years ago. I too lost a baby daughter back then. It's one of, if not, the hardest thing to bear. You and your wife will need time to get used to this. There are organisations that can help you both. The hospital should be able to help there. You will need to support each other in this time of pain. It does help. So does crying a lot.

    I shall stop there but if you need someone to talk too who knows what you're going through, please feel free to PM me and I shall do my utmost to help.

    Again, my condolences.
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    That's terrible news. My condoleances and best wishes to you and your wife, Sarmatian.

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    So terribly sorry for your loss. My deepest condolences, Sarmatian.

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    My deepest condolences to you and your family.
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