Civility and threats of grievous bodily harm or worse.

[Beskar]

Not all rules are equal. Punishment for stealing bread is not the same as committing murder. There is a fundamental and significant difference between "Saying vile comments like that to someones face in person will probably occur in physical repercussions." and "I am going to come there and smash your skull in, here is my address, come at me.". You may not be able to tell the difference, but there is a clear one. It was also qualified within the post you were referring to that Fragony himself would not do such behaviour towards you, as he felt you were not worth the effort. He did not issue a threat.

As for the second matter you brought up, it is a given that any private message titled: "I'm Sorry" with the message: "YOU WERE BORN!!!!!" that was reported to the moderators would be dealt it, and in this case, it was.