Feminism out of control?

[Gilrandir]

Most of these you don't need to be doing as a general rule, so of course there's no need to ask.

Weren't it you who said

But for now simply ask her what she wants, or how she feels about each issue.

If someone looks like they need help with bags, you should ask. At least notify them that you intend to help. But it can be relationship-dependent, if for example you share a destination or share the bags - so it would make sense for you to carry some.

Not someone - we are discussing helping women. The ones that your are building relationship with.

If a woman thinks you're a boor for this, invite her to revise her expectations.

... or move to a different country with different gender expectations.