Yeah, Connection speed does'nt seem too important, i get the same results from my 600k conn as i did with my 160k.

As for an army set-up, try some 10k games with my recommended German set-up.

4 val 0 Tuetonic Knights (one of which is your general)
2 val 0 Chivalric knights
4 val 3 Fuedal men at arms
2 val 2 Chivalric men at arms
3 val 0 armour 1 Pavise arbs
1 val 0 armour 1 Archers