On realism and the kill rate - RTW is a game!

[Tyrac]

I want a slider where I can CHOSE ANY SPEED I WANT from stop to triple speed.

The game is too fast. Right now a battle is
Deploy
Start battle
PAUSE
look at everything
arrange and give orders
Unpause
5 sec or less PAUSE
Re order units etc
unpause
.05 sec
Pause
tell units to RUN :P
Unpause
watch for 5 sec as the uits start to make contact
Pause
Fix my units that are supposed to be grouped but are acting like they are not.
SCREAM AT THE STUPID ARCHERS as they take out my front line troops.
unpause
watch 3 units die and route as my cav flanks them and charges
pause
try to sort out the units that are in the broken ones and turn off my stupid archers before they slaughter my cavalry.
etc.etc.etc.

I want to WATCH THE FIGHT dammit. I do not want to pause more then not.
PLEASE let me slow the speed down without useing mods that change things and may effect balance in unintended ways.