Is love exclusive ?

[Shahed]

Question: Is YOUR love exclusive ?

Explanation:
Can you only love ONE man/woman, and once you do you cannot love anyone else.

OR

Is your love nonexclusive, you can love many women/men at the same time, equally.

Next question:
Of course there is also the general question about love: is IT (love) itself exclusive, that you cannot love another woman becuase you already love one. Your love for this person prevents you from loving anyone else equally ?

Just wanted to get a feel about what you think.
Cheers ! Thanks for your replies.

[King Edward]

It depends as there are different types of love, I love my girlfriend in a different way to I Love my family.

and also it depends on context, and its meaning to other people - The bible stated that you should love thy neighbour, and even if i did believe this i certanly wouldent love them like i love my girlfriend or family!!

I belieive you can only love 1 person as a partner as to love them means that you want to spend your life with them over anyone and that you miss them deepley when they are not around (trust me i know how this feels, my girlfriend has spent over 2 1/2 years of the 4 that we have been together abroad) and also that Love is more than just a sexual thing as you can be sexually attracted to some one you dont love, without compromising the way you feel for the person you do love.

[Shahed]

Good posts.

Yes I did mean romatic love i.e falling in love.
God I will learn to be more clear when I express my thoughts.

Well for myself, I believe romantic love itself is non exclusive. However if one is romantically involved with one woman, and this romance is very strong, it may tend to hamper efforts to be in love with another. This depends on what intrinsic values the person possesses.

[Shahed]

Umm dont forget there is a poll on top ! :P

[JAG]

Definately not, but if pushed I am sure people are able to give a true account of who they love more, but that doesn't mean that the love for others isn't there.

[LittleGrizzly]

well romantic love i hope there can be more than 1 but i dont now for sure as ive only had 1

[Ser Clegane]

I do not believe that love is exclusive.

It is absolutely possible for me to feel deep love for more than one woman

Of course it is a bit difficult to dedicate enough of your emotions and your time to more than one woman and live up to m ore than one love.

So while having these feelings is possible (and not unusual) IMO, however actually living these feelings will be very hard.

(that's kind of the short version answer)

[Hetman_Koronny]

I think there are different kinds of love (each love is different). I love my fiancee, mom, dad, and a few other people. I love beer too .

But the above is of course fooling around. Honestly, and now I answer your question, I couldn't love more than one woman equally. While I bet I could fall in 'love' easily but it would hurt my 'other' love. Not directly (but that too if she found out), yet indirectly - I could not love her in the same way.

True love is much more than desire, passion and attraction to the other person... It has to grow for a while and must undergo some testing in real, daily life... Yet, it is a different subject.

MY CONCLUSION
Maybe I am old fashioned but there can be only one exclusively in my heart :)

[Del Arroyo]

If I was talking about brotherly love or familial love I would have mentioned them specifically...

[A.Saturnus]

If I was talking about brotherly love or familial love I would have mentioned them specifically...

Then your argument is circular.

The distinction between "lust" and "love" is bullocks. It can IMO be argued that they are the same thing-- but at the very least, "lust" is a prerequisite and indispensable component of "love".

If you seperate love to a partner from other forms, it´s no wonder that lust and love go together. I have a male friend I love just as I love a sexual partner minus the sexual attraction. Thus, love can apparently appear without lust. And that lust can appear without love doesn´t need to be argued, I think.

[Del Arroyo]

Well, Saturnus, in Greek they have three separate and very distinct words-- one for love between parent and child, one for brotherly love ("agape", the only one I can name), and one for the love between a man and a woman. If you give no credence to this distinction, then I´m not entirely sure what to say.

When you say that you love your woman for all the same reasons that you love your friend, the only difference being the addition of sexual attraction, my first instinct is to say that this is a delusion. But who knows? I don´t know you and have not met either of these important people in your life.

DA

[A.Saturnus]

When you say that you love your woman for all the same reasons that you love your friend, the only difference being the addition of sexual attraction, my first instinct is to say that this is a delusion. But who knows? I don´t know you and have not met either of these important people in your life.

lol, indeed you don´t know my life. Believe me, you wouldn´t think it´s a delusion if you would know the whole story.