Quote Originally Posted by R'as al Ghul
I frequently refuse adoption in the hope to get a better one. Happens from time to time. However, if you refuse, the opportunity is gone. You won't have a captain with command ratings. In fact you won't even find the character as he has no name.

R'as
AFAIK there are 2 kinds of adoption: husbands and captains after battle. I also tend to refuse wannabe husbands (complete idiots, I wonder about these Roman girls...), but always promote/adopt captains after battles, they seem to have good v&v. It happens rarely, though.