A Rant on Life

**NagatsukaShumi** · 02-04-2005, 02:23

Life can be a b*tch at times Capo, but then again at times it can be an absolute joy to live.

Things have happened in my life that haven't made things easy. People have left me alone, people have picked on me and to be honest I've just had stress most days of my life. I've though of all kinds of ways out, I have the scars to prove it sadly but you shouldn't ever give up, I learnt that.

Life can get on top of you and I know that is tough to live with, but thats what lifes like sometimes. I've finally started to pull away from the dark days of my past, those who made fun can choke on their words, because they were proved false by last years events. I was told numerous times nobody wanted me, now I've got a girlfriend who means the world to me, something I never though could happen, but did. Point been, even if things seem impossible just don't give up, you can achieve them in the end.

I know I've probably never even spoken to you before but, I don't like to see any member of this forum go through this sort of thing without atleast trying to lend some helpful words.

Regards
Nag

**Byzantine Prince** · 02-04-2005, 02:56

People make my life hard as well. You're definetly not alone Capo. People used to put me down a lot when I was younger and I learned to take it most of the time. It has come at a price though. I now feel very violent towards others(verbally and pysically) who piss me off. I can't say I like it, but that was to be expected after all that humiliation. This started really early on although it wasn't as bad as when I became a teenager. I like Ichi's opinion on the subject a lot. Living and doing well in your life is much much more satisfying then taking revenge. Although if you ever get the chance to don't turn it down completely. You shouldn't go out of your way to get it though. We are all gonna die one day so what's better then living that whole time as well and confortable as possible. Life is all about a frame of mind rother then anything else.

**CrackedAxe** · 02-04-2005, 03:36

I dont mean to patronise or demean your plight, Capo, but have you any idea how strong you will emerge from this?

You sometimes meet rare people in life, those with an uncommon strength and dignity, people who you can tell from their eyes and the way they carry themselves, that they've been through it and back out the other side. These people can take whatever shit life can throw at them, and still come up smiling, and greater still, still willing to help others through the same sort of crap.

See it like this: these times can be rare gifts, they can invest your spirit with a strength, wisdom and depth that you just don't find in the majority of shallow, self absorbed people. They can make you proud of yourself in years to come, when you have a strength of humanity that your friends, family, children etc, will admire you for. Take that strength of insight and intelligence that we can see you have already, and let this make you stronger and nobler still.

**Beirut** · 02-04-2005, 05:26

My dearest Capo,

You are allowing too much authority over yourself by putting your own happiness in other people's hands. Keep that power unto yourself. If you are happy it's to your credit and if you are unhappy, likewise it is your fault.

I could never give up that much power over my life by letting someone else decide my emotional state. Even if something they did made me unhappy, the unhappiness is mine and I will deal with it the way I see fit, I will not become a slave to their emotions (mine are enough of a problem thank you) and existence and live according to an anger I feel towards them. That is handing over way too much power.

Take your existence by the reigns as much as you can. Take the responsibility of your mental state. Do not sacrifice your independence by letting others tell you how to feel and how to think. If your unhappy, well that's too bad, but it's you who are unhappy and you own that unhappiness. No one else does. Keep the authority, keep the self respect, keep yourself yours. When you put your unhappiness into another person's hands you are putting your happiness into their hands as well. Do not become a mirror for other people to comb their hair with. Just be yourself and deal with it.

**PanzerJaeger** · 02-04-2005, 06:21

What supportive and insightful responses to someone who is obviously feeling down.

A wonderful group of people we have here, or mabey most people are this wonderful, but the competetive and clique-ish atmosphere we live in prevents us from being so supportive to to eachother in person.

Life will get better Cap, then worse again, and then better. Just live it the best way you can and you'll get what you deserve.

**LittleGrizzly** · 02-04-2005, 06:48

Life will get better Cap, then worse again, and then better. Just live it the best way you can and you'll get what you deserve.

and remember when you hit rock bottom the only way is up!