My dearest Capo,

You are allowing too much authority over yourself by putting your own happiness in other people's hands. Keep that power unto yourself. If you are happy it's to your credit and if you are unhappy, likewise it is your fault.

I could never give up that much power over my life by letting someone else decide my emotional state. Even if something they did made me unhappy, the unhappiness is mine and I will deal with it the way I see fit, I will not become a slave to their emotions (mine are enough of a problem thank you) and existence and live according to an anger I feel towards them. That is handing over way too much power.

Take your existence by the reigns as much as you can. Take the responsibility of your mental state. Do not sacrifice your independence by letting others tell you how to feel and how to think. If your unhappy, well that's too bad, but it's you who are unhappy and you own that unhappiness. No one else does. Keep the authority, keep the self respect, keep yourself yours. When you put your unhappiness into another person's hands you are putting your happiness into their hands as well. Do not become a mirror for other people to comb their hair with. Just be yourself and deal with it.