I have notice that some of the traits are handed down from one generation to another. So, if I really get a bad 16 yr old or 18 yr old, I march them straight into battle and get rid of them. But, if they win, they become decent generals. Also, passing some of the retinues from one to another helps. So, there is a couple of ways of straightening out your hiers. If worst comes to worst, they have to be sacrificed in battle. Gives the family a good name.
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