Suitable Husband

[Arkantos]

In my game, most of my family member r female, n some of them still not marry in the age 40+. N now got a 76 years old guy wan to marry her.
I oso get some 50+ husband for others.
Anyone experience it before?
Any tips how to get more son than daughter?
Maybe I shouldnt bribe so many general, because they will consider as ur family members.

[Folcumbane]

I accept almost every husband candidate into my family. Age doesn't matter

[Atreides]

I accept almost every husband candidate into my family. Age doesn't matter

I totally disagree with that. A dude of 20 will live (65 is 'normal) 90 turns. A dude of 40 wil only live 50 turns. So that is allmost twice the time of the 40 year old.

That's time to:
- make baby's
- Gain stars/management and influence.
- win battles/ govern your 'high attention' cities.

[oompalumpa]

I also accept almost every adoption/marrige proposal without worrying aqbout age or whatever. Of course ther younger the better, but some old geezer who can spend 10 years governing some out of the way settlement is better than nobody at all.

[Craterus]

it depends who they are marrying.. In my Egypt campaign, I have a 58 year old married to a 12 year old.. and they have a child..

[Somebody Else]

I have 30 provinces. And 5 family members. No-one is suitable to marry into my family.

[Kekvit Irae]

it depends who they are marrying.. In my Egypt campaign, I have a 58 year old married to a 12 year old.. and they have a child..

Off topic, that's not uncommon to see among royalty back in those days.

On topic, I accept everyone for proposal. If I get low on family members, I take a captain with a small army out and win a few battles for the "Man of the Hour" event.

[AntiochusIII]

Actually I'm very picky about the marriage. Only the best youngster gets in. A daughter is never to be wasted with a loser...

However, I'm often so low on family members that they'll occasionally offer free adoption opportunities for me time and again. They tend to be ordinary - a bit good - and *without* bad traits. You have to develop them from the start but they tend to be easy with, and young.

The commander from victory adoption tends to be a good general to use...

Suitors often sucks...

Sons of older members often rise up either as junks or superbly skilled, but they always somehow got bad traits..

[Arkantos]

I accept youngster (

[Shadar]

You see, the main problem with waiting is that the older the girl gets, the older the suitors are. In other words, i now accept the youngsters around 20-30 almost instantly unless they have a debilitating problem. This allows me to groom them to become either a great general, or a good administrator. First one, just win lots of battles and he'll get up there in command stars - the harder the better (its not hard. you should be able to get at least 6 stars within 10 years, so you've got a good commander for the rest of his life). In the second, just dump your guy into a city with the academies to boost up his retinue with influence and management ancillaries, then move him to a ungoverned town and start grooming him for better government.

I always seem to be low on family members - which is why i take every one i can. i can usually only manage to keep my capital and most of my important cities governed while keeping 2 standing armies, or more depending on my need.

[Cardinal]

Patch 1.2 will make the suitors more suitable. Anyway (this is just an educated guess though) but I think the female charachters stop having children after 45, so if you female is old(ish), who cares who she marries (except her).

[Oaty]

Well I use a simple formula 30 and younger for a 19 year old or less. Once they hit 20 it's pretty much anyone who will take her under 45 years. The shorter you are in family members the more of them will be young. If I'm close to 1 general per city I may except greater age differences as not too many opportunties present themselves in this case.

Also for those that don't know how to tell who's marrying who, heres how.

You get the message 35 year old Cornelius Scipio wants to marry Fastia. First go to your factions folder, it will automatically minimize the marriage screen. Open your family tree and look for Fastia, you can see her age and if the her age compared to the husbands age is suitable to you tastes you can either accept it or turn it down.

Another thing daughters are a bit preprogrammed from my observation. I noticed this when I ran into a minor bug with one of the husbands. I went back a few turns and the same husband's kept showing up in the exact order. I believe they had some kind of feature in there with possibly civil wars but changed it so that it could only happen to the Romans and did'nt use family members to provoke it.

[Craterus]

I'll allow anyone to marry into the family as long as I think they're useful... or if I might one day need them.. I'm running a bit low on generals at the moment..

[pezhetairoi]

I do the youngster thing. As long as he's below 35, even if he doesn't have any command stars I accept him. My generals are all very virile anyway, so there are plenty of daughters to go around, and i rarely get marriage announcements.

[MajorFreak]

i don't mind getting an old geezer. why? because i load them up with the crappy ancillaries and wait for them to die off. I used to be desperate for generals, but now i'm quite happy grooming a few for battles, a few for unit building, a few for the best trade cities, and one or two for growth rate bonus ancillaries - especially once you learn that generals tend to make babies while in cities and that you can get captains adopted as long as you're prepared for bad traits in current sons for that action.

heck, the best use for geezers is to load them up with about 6 bad ancillaries that a bred in a certain town, but that has one or two buildings that have one or two decent ancillaries -- since you have all the bad ones already, it breeds the good ones.