A spilling of guts

[Byzantine Prince]

Wait a week. You'll see, you'll get over it. If I could count all the girls/women I have had complete crushes on it would take all day, but I got over ALL of them.

There's millions of people out there. You'll find someone like yourself again. And if you think about it college has a larger selection as well, there's bound to be someone you might like even more!

You know man it could have been worse. You could have never met anyone you ever liked. That's my problem to be honest. I am incredibly picky like I imagine you are, but I haven't given up hope yet.

[Samurai Waki]

I'm happy keeping with my occasional one-night stands... some of the managers have been refering to me as Quagmire lately (from Family Guy)

But seriously, HS relationships tend be fairly shallow... is it me, or are most girls/women walking hypocrits? They say one thing, do one thing, and then before you know it... do something completely opposite.

If what... one or two weeks went by... and she didn't call you (yes it should be the other way around also) then she really didn't want to be serious with you in the first place. Either that or she isn't very socialable.

[discovery1]

But seriously, HS relationships tend be fairly shallow... is it me, or are most girls/women walking hypocrits? They say one thing, do one thing, and then before you know it... do something completely opposite.

Maybe such flexibility is a strength.

If what... one or two weeks went by... and she didn't call you (yes it should be the other way around also) then she really didn't want to be serious with you in the first place. Either that or she isn't very socialable.

We did communicate rather often.

[Cygnus X-1]

Maybe such flexibility is a strength.

What?! 'Flexibility' is a strength for sure (on all accounts ), but hypocrisy and borderline deception is not! Personally, i'd much rather the women be as rational as the men i know...

And Wazikashi, i completely agree.

[Blodrast]

Different things work for different people. Some try to drown their sorrow in booze, some in a large number of women over a short period of time, some in more or less complete abstinence, some in moving away from people and the world, etc.
None are worse or better as a rule; they simply work better (and note better is very subjective) for different people.

So mostly, we can only really advise you from our own similar experiences (which makes perfect sense, of course); but keep in mind that what may work fine for us, may be different in your case; we're all a bit different (argh, I hate sounding so much like a preacher or a two-cents cheap-ass philosopher).

Anyway, give it a bit of time. These "old boyfriend/girlfriend" things honestly piss me off, but that's not really on-topic.
Another thing perhaps to keep in mind is that different people can fill different gaps in you in different ways: one may be an incredible sex partner, another one can be your best drinking buddy, yet another one may be your confidante, another to help you out with advice and life-deciding matters, like an older brother, and the list goes on.

I'm trying to say two things with this:
1. First, even though she may not become your gf, you can most likely keep in touch with her. Anything can happen over time: you may figure out that she's the woman of your life, or that she is not really as special as you first thought, or anything in between. Not only that, but she may also turn out to be very good company, or, like I was trying to say above, fill other kind of gaps in your life.

2. You can look for some of the things she may have been able to offer you in other places. You might be surprised at your findings once you look hard enough...

Did I say give it a bit of time?

good luck

[discovery1]

Now I'm so confused. She said that i'm a part of her that she loves but is trying to let go of because it's incompatible with the furture she plans for. I discourge yet encourage her violent tendencies. And if she drops the tendencies, then she will either change the nature of our relationship(ruining everything) or let go. And she doesn't want to make that decision. She says she doesn't want to lose me now. But if she doesn't drop that part of her then she will leave her boyfriend in hopes of being with me.

And I hate society. I really hate society.

[ichi]

(argh, I hate sounding so much like a preacher or a two-cents cheap-ass philosopher).

No $h!t

I want to help but do not want to ever talk condescendingly or authoritatively. Gah!

or are most girls/women walking hypocrits? They say one thing, do one thing, and then before you know it... do something completely opposite.

Men/boys can do this also, sometimes intentionally being hypocritical playing games, manipulating, other times confused. People change as they learn and figure things out. I've always preferred the unpredictable woman to the oh-so-predictable, boring girl.

She said that i'm a part of her that she loves but is trying to let go of because it's incompatible with the furture she plans for. I discourge yet encourage her violent tendencies. And if she drops the tendencies, then she will either change the nature of our relationship(ruining everything) or let go.

Like it or not, a dark and dangerous path isn't compatible with raising a family or becoming successful in most endeavors (rockstar, pornstar, author, criminal, vampire maybe its OK), and she sees this. You bring out the exciting, the unusual, the interesting in her life, but she may be wise enough to know that this could be incompatible with a 'normal' life.

Since many people have a hard time balancing the light and dark, the kind and the evil, love and hate within themselves, she might just be taking the safe course.

She may see you as different (which can be a positive) yet may fear normalizing you and normalizing with you.

I really hate society.

So do I, but I also love it. It is as necessary as it is useless, as real as it is an illusion, as oppressing as it it uplifting.

The ability to hold two mutually exclusive thoughts in one's head simultaneously, and not to let it hurt, is a good thing to have.

ichi