Well First and Foremost, if everybody on the forum thinks that the US is occupying Iraq, then I am sure most Iraqis think we are occupying Iraq. We need to send in many many more troops... at least 100,000. Then we need to all but sever Al Jazeera from Iraqi TVs, the Iraqi government needs to broadcast it's own Iraqi propaganda station. We need hourly border patrols, via helicopters, and airplanes using highly advanced infra-red and other optical surveillance equipment. The US military is not soft, it's the American people themselves who cannot handle the war, most soldiers dislike Bush for making them go there... but out of every soldier I have met that has been in Iraq, they say that they need to be there for a long time, maybe even a decade or more, and most are willing to do that. We need to rekindle our bonds with Europe and the UN, also we need to draft a UN Right to Act Bill, allowing UN authority to be ruled under an elected Chain of Command, and giving UN peacekeepers the right to not only defend themselves, but the right to defend the country and the people they are supposed to defend. From this point, we could slowly move troops out of Iraq, whilst UN forces move in, and the Iraqi Military rebuilds itself. For every US soldier that is withdrawn from Iraq, the Iraqis must have One Fully Trained and Equipped soldier to replace him.
Also the Iraqis must make a clear and well thought out constitution that scrutinizes anyone with deep religious affiliation, military affiliations, or outside affiliations to be able to hold office. Kurdistan needs to be recognized as a dependent nation, so they have their own constitution and civil rights, outside of Baghdad, but would be economic and military dependants. Any act of aggression by the Southern Iraqis (shi'ites or Sunnis) would be treated as an act of war and would activate US military support.
Hmmm... can't think much beyond that.

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