I'm not a big fan of assaulting castles until I have cannons so this is what I do. I like to attack, win the battle, withdraw allowing the garrison to reoccupy the province, and repeat until their army is defeated and there is no siege. When doing this I rarely (if ever) have a reduction of the fortification and (I believe) my generals get credit for a(n easy) win. Does this sound correct?
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