Cybersex grounds for divorce ?

[doc_bean]

I just heard on the radio that in a local court an 'erotic' conversation over the internet has been allowed as a valid reason for divorce. I'm not sure how I feel about that, I consider most of the internet as make believe, entertainment. On the other hand, it could be quite painful to know your wife is getting her kicks from someone else...

So, what do my fellow patrons think about this ? Is it a valid reason to ask for a divorce ? Can it be considered cheating even ? Is cybersex sex ?

[Sjakihata]

Is it a valid reason to ask for a divorce?

Yes, I think so.

Can it be considered cheating even?

In a way, yes, the same as telehpone sex. You get your needs stimulated from someone else than your husband/wife. Some would might argue that pornography and masturbation is cheating as well, however, every fantasy would be so. If it's from a christian moral viewpoint, all these would probably be considered cheating, but in a legal sense, no they are not.

Is cybersex sex ?

Of course not.

[yesdachi]

About 10 years ago a friend of mines parents got divorced because she was having an online affair (no actual contact). Not sure of any details but she went to be with her online “lover” and he dated and ended up marrying a total babe that was younger than my friend/his son .

Seems like a valid reason for divorce, could be considered cheating but I don’t think it is really sex.

[Don Corleone]

Well, Mrs. Corleone and I have a strict Sicilian marriage, no divorce. When the minister read out 'till death do you part', my beloved patted the revolver strapped to her thigh and said 'you better believe it'. What do I think would happen if I got caught having an online rendezvous? The words 'shallow unmarked grave' come to mind.


And Mrs. Corleone doesn't mind the occassional adult entertainment. It's not the sexual content really, it's the intimacy. I think she'd be equally hurt and offended if she found out I has having online chats every day with a specific woman, baring the contents of my soul to her and such. I can certainly understand that, and therefore, don't put myself into positions where that might occur.

[Seamus Fermanagh]

Is selfish behavior that excludes one's spouse inappropriate?

Is sharing intimacy with someone outside your marriage inappropriate?

Fidelity isn't soley based on a lack of physical fluid exchange.

All in all, it may be grounds for divorce. Depends on the couple and what is correct for them. Some people live happily in open marriages , so there is no one answer for all marriages, but I believe it can be legitimate grounds for complaint.

Seamus

[doc_bean]

Oh, I forgot to mention, it was the wife that was having the 'chat'. The court considered it 'insulting behaviour', not adultery, but still grounds for divorce. I'm not up to date on the current Belgian divorce law, but I assume this means she is at fault and he can get the divorce without too much concern that she will run off with all his money and (if they have them) the kids. I think that was his plan all along, divorce is normally expensive...

[Don Corleone]

I don't know how divorces go in Belgium, but in most states in America, unless the woman has proven herself to be a clear threat to the welfare of the children, she will receive primary custody, no matter how responsible she is for the dissolution of the marriage. Generally speaking, if the mother gets custody of the children, regardless of who was to blame, the father is ordered to pay child support. Theoretically, it's supposed to work the other way too, but in practice, as the only way for the mother to lose custody in the first place is to be dysfunctional, she is generally only ordered to pay child support if she voluntarily reliquishes custody (wants to start a new life). Should she be out of work and receiving support from a new husband/boyfriend/girlfriend, the new partner cannot be required to pay child support.

All in all, once American men say "I do", we are HIGHLY motivated to keep our spouses as content as possible. The deck is decidedly stacked against us. As I do not believe in divorce outside of repeated physical abuse, I'm not certain this is a bad thing, all in all.

[Strike For The South]

Cybersex and a divorce what happend to working stuff out granted if they had tried and tried agian its diffrent but divorce should always be a last resort of course there are always exceptions