Quote Originally Posted by Redleg
You do what you can -
I think we are exactly on the same wavelength, the difference in approach being that I wrote about the generalities of the issue and you wrote about the specifics of an incident in your personal life. Sounds like you managed to avert all the usual emotional traps, prejudices and overreactions, Redleg. I have no right to evaluate your private life, but I think you have done very, very well in this situation, acting on the same principles I have tried to act on in the past when necessary. Fortunately I have never been a perpetrator or a victim of this, but it does get under your skin if you are confronted with the consequences.

@BMolsson, well said, I am very sorry to hear what happened to your friend.

@Dave, I think the best way for you to start is to come to The Netherlands and discover that you can have a great time here because there are none of the myriad moral threats and legal perversities you seem to imagine.