The problem is mostly sorted out now. It's 199BC and i have 4 competent legion commanders. My faction leader and faction heir, each with 2 command stars who are both campaigning in Greece. Another one sitting in Sagestica who has 1 comand star waiting for a family member to become available to govern the city, and 1 garrisoned in a fort along my northern border with the barbarians with a full legion.

I've sorted out the huge numbers of money problem by lowering taxes and giving all my cities daily games... If i need more i just raise taxes, if it gets to much i lower them again. Still a lot of my field generals have to be stripped of their legions because they become 'lovers of beauty'... This has happened twice now but i'm not letting my balance go above 50k so this should keep it sorted out.