I agree, if that wasn't clear in the post above then I must have expressed myself unclearly. Maybe that's the reason why the subject is always misunderstood when discussed.Originally Posted by Haruchai
Ok, but if you're too weak to carry out self-defense, you're lost when the system works like that. This is for example the case in group harassment. If a group goes against a person he loses if he defends himself. All he can do is try to find the individual oppressors alone and deal with them one at the time. But then it's too long time after the attack for law to be able to call it self-defense.Originally Posted by Haruchai
Same thing goes if a single person harasses you repeatedly. It's difficult to defend oneself, because you never know when the offenses will come. So if you're not prepared always, you'll fight a losing battle. The opponent will manage to hurt you a little at the time, then withdraw, and you can't do anything back. Being in a constant readiness state gives a huge suffering, it's even the principle behind a form of Chinese torture. The skilled harasser tries to make his harassments just heavy enough to make you feel you need to enter the constant readiness state, but then once you enter the readiness state, he withdraws and hides until you've exhausted yourself, and begins again when he sees that you've gone out of the readiness state.
Also, whenever a "jury" is assigned to judge, it's always the person who can hold his head highest of the two involved in the conflict that wins. Repeated harassment and undermining of self-confidence therefore means the victim is chanceless, and doesn't dare going to a jury or court, because he knows he'll only lose even more. That might not be a problem if he's lost everything, but most people still have something left.
Furthermore, the "not respond violently to verbal abuse" rule has another weakness. It gives the harasser an option to choose the type of weapon he is best at handling. If he's good at verbal abuse he chooses verbal abuse, otherwise he chooses that the fight will be through physical violence. Should an agressor really get to choose ground before battle? An attack is after all always an attack, and I've seen cases where the attacker first chooses verbal attack because he thinks he's best at that, then goes on to physical violence because he finds out the verbal attack didn't work. The victim could have defeated the opponent if he had been able to reply to the verbal attack with violence, having the element of surprise. As it is now, the attacker always gets the element of surprise. Oh, and finally, it's easy to physically hit someone in a way so that you won't see any wounds in a court room, in ways that still cause both as much damage and pain. You can also undermine someone's self-confidence so that after enough protests when you explain that you've been beaten, you'll believe that you haven't been beaten, and excuse yourself in shame.
These factors are repeated in the most common forms of harassment: bullying, beating from fathers, beating from brothers, beating of wives, beating of husbands, beating of people because of religious or ethnical background, sexual child abuse, other sexual abuse etc. I think the main reason why people harass is because it's so impossible to prosecute them for it, and it can even result in the victim becoming prosecuted when he loses free will and self-control after repeated harassment.
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