There are certain things "friends" can do that reflect so largley on their character or their role of me as friend that it will make me shut them out without warning.

One of the biggerst letdowns I ever had was when a good friend explained to me that his ex-girlfriends new boyfriend was stalking him, and then one day he shows up with his bruised face the size of a watermelon. Apparently the guy jumped him after a concert and threatened to do it again. So I start going out with the friend where this assailant might run into him, just for the sake of protecting a friend and returning the favor of bulldozing him when he wasnt looking.

Then, on Napster of all places, I find a file called "Matt ********* real tough guy" just by lucky chance. I listen to it. Its a series of answering machine messages, with dates and times, where Matt calls and leaves threatening, offensive messages on the new boyfirends machine. These were terrible, terrible things that you dont say to people, let alone their girlfriends. Any man with half a testicle would have jumped trhis guy too.

Then some people also told me that "Matt" instigated the altercation at the concert, and his story pretty much checked out when I talked to tohers.

In short, this guy used me, lied to me, was willing to possibly have me get my ass beaten for the issue that he wrongly brought on himself, and continued to lie about it. Never talked to him again, didnt tell hima bout the Napster file, but did email it too a lot of peopole

On a side note, the napster file also had a message from after the Matt buttkicking, where he threatened the new boyfriend by saying he was in the mafia, had powerful drug dealer friends, and relatives who were lawyers. What a frikking joke this guy was.....