...A Little Scared

[Strike For The South]

You are a good man Wazhaski. Many others wouldve cut and run

[IrishArmenian]

If your parents are relgious conservatives, bring a couple of your biggest, most trustworthy and heaviest armed comrades to 'accompany' you while you tell your parents about it. One of the most important things about this is you are not skipping town, which is a good sign. You will need a lot of help from your parents seeing as you will probably not have as much time on your hands. I would probably, while your girl friend is pregnant, listen to what she says (or sometimes, if you really cannot, pretend to) go through your stuff so you can sell what you don't want or need anymore (make room and money), or box up what you love but you are afraid your girlfriend will sell/give away (instruments, other sentimental items). I can tell you will make a good father, and I would advise you to really, really kiss your girlfriend's a$$ a couple of times, because she is probably going through a whole lot of problems right now. I know a lot about this because I had to help my brother with a whole lot of this stuff. I actually had to restrain my father from hitting him.
Krazilec, that could be me next, but I will be married so I do not have to ward off angry parents.

[doc_bean]

Wakizashi, you seem to have recovered well from the initial shock and are ready making plans for the future. Nice to see you handling it so well. I wouldn't marry ehr right away if I was you, it will imho always feel like a 'shotgun wedding', adn you do only knwo eachother for six months, and planning a wedding is additional stress, which you surely don't want. Wait a few years, once you both get settled in your new life you can probably make the wedding much more satisfying for yourselves.

I would probably, while your girl friend is pregnant, listen to what she says

Otherwise you just ignore what your wife/girlfriend says ?

Krazilec, that could be me next, but I will be married so I do not have to ward off angry parents.

Good luck with that !

[Samurai Waki]

I can't honestly say that I'm taking it extremely well, it's still like taking a hard punch to the jaw, it just so happens that I'm not so easy to take down. I've been depressed and angry the last couple of days, but we've opened up dialogue with each other on how we're going to handle it, it's still a lot of emotions jumbled up together, both her's and mine so we're counseling each other as best we can through it. Not too mention paranoia is still nagging at me, which is driving my anger and depression into further depths, and I don't think I'll be completely relieved until I get a full DNA test right after the birth. I've explained this too her, that it's in no way her fault for me being this way, its just six months...six months, what if she hasn't been completely honest or faithful? It's not that I don't trust her, I trust her almost implicitly, but I do suffer from paranoia disorder, and it's like even though I've locked out those feelings of distrust, it's still like they're knocking on the door and telling me to be careful. You pour everything you have into the relationship emotional wise, and you don't want to be dissapointed, sometimes you want to try and ignore the voices nagging at you in your head, but I'm someone who would rather hear the truth and be destroyed by it, then be suspicious of her and the child for the rest of my life.

[Gregoshi]

Wakizashi, you might not be taking it too well, but you seem to be handling it very well. Both of you are communicating and that is a very good thing. You also both seem to be supportive of each other and that too is a very good thing.

I don't know what to say about the paranoia. However, relationships are built on trust. Unless she gives you valid reasons not to trust her, you should ignore the paranoia as much as you are able to.

[doc_bean]

That doesn't mean he can't get a blood test though does it ?
If it would be something that reassures him and lets him better handle the situation I'd say there's nothing wrong with it imho. I'd probably get a bloodtest if my girlfriend got pregnant and we've been together for two years. She already laughed at me for suggesting that and said I should do that if I felt I needed it because it would be mine anyway.

Paranoia becomes a problem if you're constantly stalking her, have to know where she is constantly, get suspicious if she's a little late and such. Don't let it go that far Wakizashi. I'm sure she can understand your need for reassurance, after all, like you said, you've only been together for six months, and you have inherited a small fortune. Just tell her that you do thrust her but there's just this little *weird* thought in the back of your head that you know is irrational but that you'd rather eliminate than suppress.

Likewise, don't get married without a pre-nup.

[Gregoshi]

That doesn't mean he can't get a blood test though does it ?
If it would be something that reassures him and lets him better handle the situation I'd say there's nothing wrong with it imho.

No, I didn't mean not to get the blood test doc, but if I understand correctly, Wakizashi has to wait until the child is born to get the comprehensive blood test done. He's got to live through six or so months of uncertainty until then. I agree about the reassurance factor in getting the test done.