this looks like a forum where there might be someone who'll get what I'm trying to say, someone from my generation?
Well I'm about 10 years older. You are right about FPS I guess (never played one after Quake 2, boring). But isn't this a bit like criticising a cat for catching mice? That's what FPS do. Yes, its dumb (do they still have packing cases everywhere?) Look at it another way, if the game didn't involve all that cheesey stuff you wouldn't call it FPS (Oblivion, for instance, reminds me very much of FPS, but does at least have dialogue and a freeform world to explore so everyone says its an RPG. Random packing cases do still seem to be a feature though)

And some RPGs do genuinely have good stories. OK, not Charles Dickens good maybe, but not shoot all the bad guys bad either.

I'm not sure why you considered TW not "grown up"? Like any game, its gamey to an extent, but, really, how accurate can you expect a simulation of medieval warfare to be when you are sitting in an armchair clicking a mouse? Or have you tried/looked at something like Combat Mission, which is a petty good simulation of squad level WWII combat that makes no real concessions to kiddie gaming that I can see. Its not meant to be military history?

I wonder that an adult game would look like? IMHO a main cause of your disatisfaction is that AI hasn't come on that much, and that's true. To be fair to games companies they allow for MP (sometimes) as a way to get round that, or if you have no life and a credit card there is WoW and the other online games. But if the AI can't react in inteligent ways to what the player does, then the options for the games designers are going to be limited. If you want a real adult game there's always chess?

As for game playing kids, come on, weren't you a git when you were an teenager? I know I was.