Advice

[Ice]

Yeah, yeah, I know I'm on an gaming forum, but I'm sure many org patrons have felt what I have felt before.

To make a long story short, I'm in love with a girl who has a boyfriend. She seems enough, only one problem, I still love her.

I need advice on how to make this feeling go away. Serious advice please other than "Just find someone else". That's the problem, I can't.

Any help would be appreciated. Thanks guys, this hurts.

[CrossLOPER]

Ah, that emotion. Many, including myself, can understand what you are feeling. Were this a simple discussion, I would give you many ways to look at this, including my own dark view, but you are asking for clear help, so help I will give.

To be honest, you can't just make that feeling go away. It's something that you have to accept. You can, however, channel this feeling into something physical to help you handle it. I don't know what you think of this type of thing, but I have found that the literature that I write is often at its best when I am in an highly, emotional state. You can write poetry, or just scribble down your thoughts(in a journal perhaps). Don't make it into something it is not, just write what is there. Try to be at peace when you do this, otherwise you'll just frustrate yourself. You can also try other forms of art, if you are good at any. Try to find something that inspires you. It does not have to be a masterpiece, but it can become one. Engaging in sport can also help. Actually, any activity that requires you to commit yourself will help.

Another approach is to directly analyze your feelings. Just find a quite time in your day and tend to your thoughts while in a park or forest, somewhere peaceful. Go over whatever comes to mind. Take as long as you need to understand your feelings.The most important thing is that you take care not to torture yourself with them.

Music is a powerful medium. I found that listening to neutral and semi-upbeat music helped me to focus when my emotions were getting the better of me. It put a rythem to my life and made everything run more smoothly. As things stand now, I cannot live without music. Perhaps it could do the same with you. If you can sing or dance(you should be able to do one), this moment in your life presents an opportunity for you to show your feelings in a certain way, if only to yourself.

I have done all of these things, and I have to say that music helped the most. You must now find what works for you. I wish you well.

EDIT: What I have told you is what works for almost everybody. However, I can tell you other ways to deal or even view this situation. I must warn you, though, that what I have to say maybe something you should not hear. So I will only tell you if you are at a complete loss. I strongly suggest you go with what you see.

[Beirut]

...only one problem, I still love her.

I need advice on how to make this feeling go away.

Time, lad. Time.

Good friends, good books, good life, they all help as well. Just keep on keeping on.

[Fragony]

I'm in love with a girl who has a boyfriend.

Don't worry you don't feel anything of that

[LeftEyeNine]

Here comes Date Doc, examines the situation and prescribes his favorite natural remedy: Forget.

You should take it before meals until it feels done.Time does heal.

[Lt Nevermind]

time, time, time... even scientifically proven. After 3 months of no contact whatsoever with her you're healed, worked with me the last time with astonishing accuracy. And god help you if you're forced to be in contact with her

[Avicenna]

time, time, time... even scientifically proven. After 3 months of no contact whatsoever with her you're healed, worked with me the last time with astonishing accuracy. And god help you if you're forced to be in contact with her

really? why 3 months?

[CrossLOPER]

For some reason, three months always works. However, right when you think you're finally rid of her, she just pops up again. That can really mess you up.

[yesdachi]

Tough luck Ice. I’d go out and have some fun with some positive friends and try and avoid the topic. Maybe while you are out you will meet someone who can help keep your mind off your troubles. Or you could download and play the Medieval II Total War Demo? Good luck.

[Dutch_guy]

Well try spending as much time with your friends as possible, try jogging/running or basically anything which takes your mind off her, and makes you open to other girls which might be just as good or better.

On the subject of friends, have you spoken to them about this ? If that is possible I'd suggest doing so, it might seem a bit weird, maybe even embarassing, but if your friends really are your friends they'd try to help you get through this. I know you've probably figured the above out already, but it's often the simple solutions one forgets.

[Ice]

Thanks for the advice my friends. The feeling in the pit of my stomach is getting the most of me.

[Fragony]

Thanks for the advice my friends. The feeling in the pit of my stomach is getting the most of me.

Why give up? She has a friend, so what? Unless it is a good friend of yours, this shouldn't bother you at all.

[Reverend Joe]

God all ****** mighty that's a horrible feeling. I really know no way to avoid it.

My advice? Get drunk, get high, get loaded. (If nothing else works, that is.)

(Only use the stars please - Beirut)

[Ice]

God all ****** mighty that's a horrible feeling. I really know no way to avoid it.

My advice? Get drunk, get high, get loaded. (If nothing else works, that is.)

I'd love to do that, but I'm not going to resort to that. I don't want to start a habit by solving my problems with alcohol/drugs.

(Edit quote - Beirut)

[Reenk Roink]

This song always helps...

[Strike For The South]

If she is happy there isnt much you can do besides be happy for her. Which is fine. I know this sucks but you have to let go. Holding on will just make things worse and you may miss something better.

[Ice]

If she is happy there isnt much you can do besides be happy for her. Which is fine. I know this sucks but you have to let go. Holding on will just make things worse and you may miss something better.

That's the most productive and helpful thing I've ever heard you say, Strike. Thanks.

Again, thanks to everyone.